Episode 45: Love Licks

[00:00:00] Episode 45, Love Licks. Love Licks. Alright. Or you remember they say love taps. Those are love taps. When a boy hits a girl at a young age. A girl hits a boy at a young age. I like to have a girl do me like that. He used to hit me and she had a crush on me. And they would just brush it off. But that reinforces it's okay to hit. That's not good folks.

[00:00:29] Just for the record, we don't condone any kind of abuse. Of any sort. That's kind of like a, not a conundrum, we say love licks. They don't go together. Well exactly. That's the point. It does not go together. Domestic violence, we don't condone that.

[00:00:53] No, no we don't. I'm a, I'm, I'm well acquainted with domestic violence. You're a survivor of domestic violence. Absolutely. Yeah. Yes I am. And now that's trying to talk about it, it's actually a, a victorious story. It's a Cinderella type story, you know. Okay. It's still happening. Like my relationship with my dad, like still good, developing, we could, we laugh. You know that.

[00:01:20] I was on the phone with him the other day and we had a call, oh my goodness. Better let him go. Women, y'all better look out. He ain't violent either. You ain't talking about no violence. Give us our 30 million.

[00:01:50] That's the show, this is your boy Coach Bobson, AKA Stiller Nation since 1976. What's up coach? You man, you listen. Episode 45, love licks. Episode 45, bro, love licks. We got, there's a lot to talk about. Let's start with limo confessions. Okay.

[00:02:18] I saw a multitude of fights. When? In my limo. Okay, so in your history. In the course of driving. Okay, gotcha. Okay. That's not an uncommon occurrence. Mm-hmm. Okay. Okay. Do you hear what I'm saying? I hear what you're saying. That's crazy. I've seen women take the rock glass that you drink the bourbon out of. Right. That's in the limo. Mm-hmm. And crack the skull open of the man. So, shit.

[00:02:47] I've seen the man slam the woman up against the limo. That's, um, that's crazy. And like you said, that's... It's not a natural. Yeah. To them. It happens. I saw it so much. Right. That's not normal, dude. I grew up, like I say, I grew up in it. Like, literally born into it. Right. To domestic violence. You call it domestically. Your dad against your mom. Yes. Okay.

[00:03:17] And, you know what? Domestic violence too, or domestic abuse, can be verbal also. Of course. So, with mine, it kind of went both ways. Like now I'm finding out that, you know how you, you know how you're not supposed to...

[00:03:42] Okay, you know how the Bible says, um, um, uh, children obey your parents. Sure. But then it, uh, after that, it says, and parents do not provoke your children to wrath. Right. That's in there too. Right. So, in other words, it goes both ways. Absolutely. Don't verbally or beat them down psychologically to the point where it turns to wrath. Right.

[00:04:10] So they hate you, or they respond with an action. Right. I just saw a little boy fight his mom, cause she wouldn't let him play the PlayStation. Fought his mom. He, 12 years old. He said, need health as well. Yeah. But he, she probably said, now all you do is sit around and play, but you look how heavy you are. But that turned into a fight between him and his mom. Yeah. But that wasn't a one, that didn't happen that day though. That was a build up. No, that was a build up. Absolutely. Which is the same way with domestic violence. Right. Domestic abuse. It's a build up.

[00:04:39] It doesn't happen overnight. Right. Listen, I've seen it in people. Individuals, bro. I have too. Close. Like females. You, I, females. Females, bro. Like. In fact, I've seen more. Sense of rage. Yeah. Very violent. Get mad. I have known many violent females. Dude, those type, you cannot be around. Not conducive.

[00:05:05] Not for your well-being, because they could turn around and be abusive and then call the police. Right. Guess what's gonna happen. Right. I see many guys' lives get ruined over. Right. You know what I mean? A lot of manipulation. Oh. Anger. You know. Out of control. Out of control. So, I've seen so many times police had to come to my house for domestic violence. With, you know, between my mom and dad. Right. My dad was the aggressor physically. Okay.

[00:05:34] But my mom was the aggressor verbally. Okay. I'm finding that out. Sure. And for me to say that over the airways is big. Sure. Because I'm admitting they both had to get, so one spurned the other and the other, you know what I mean? They had their own ebb. Most couples have their own ebb and flow. That's what. And some of it was, it incorporates violence. Dude. It does. It did in my household.

[00:05:58] I grew up, I remember when I was four years old, I remember getting my head, I hit the back of my head on the dryer or the washer from where my dad, like my mom and I was there. I remember that. Wow. I got four years old. Wow. Hit the head. Boom. Yeah. And you can remember those visuals as if it was yesterday. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Because the word is indelible.

[00:06:28] It leaves an indelible impression on you. Right. Facts. Facts. Consequently, is what comes from no. Right. You know how you say, this happened in my life and consequently. Now one of the things that I thank God for that I didn't do is I didn't take on that trait from my dad. Right. I didn't beat on my wife. Sure. Exactly. Exactly. You broke the cycle. Right. Right.

[00:06:57] Because I hated it when I saw it. But I'm sure you incorporate other, I would say, dealings from it, from the consequences from it. Yes. Yeah. Absolutely. Now, you know what? What used to scare me was I saw the streak of anger that was in him. I saw that in me. So potentially, I could go there. You knew it had that. Right. Right. Right.

[00:07:26] But the decency in me, the God in me, I hated what I saw. That's what I was trying to say. So you, your, somewhat your avenue of recovery was through God. Absolutely. The whole thing. Mm-hmm. The only way, listen y'all, I lived in that situation, domestic abuse, violence for 16 years of my life.

[00:07:57] Literally from birth to when I was 16 years old to when my parents got divorced. Wow. I used to go to school from having just been out the house, 2.30 in the morning, no shoes on, had to turn around and go to school and face it. But then people looking at you not knowing what you were going through. What's wrong with you? Why your grades falling down? Right. Why you falling asleep in class? Right.

[00:08:26] You only knew. You only knew. It's a domestic thing. Right. Yeah. So it gets easy. Let's pray. Yeah, we're going to pray. So anybody that's suffering. So let's pray for anyone that's suffering. Currently and those who have suffered in a physical abusive relationship. And also my high school basketball coach, Coach Ryan, he passed away this week. Wow. Good guy. Go pray for the Ryan family. Yeah, pray for him.

[00:08:53] So we're lifting up the Ryan family, anybody that's going through, anybody that's bereaved, which is the Ryan family, we ask them asking God to be with you and just give you guys comfort through this time of struggling this season that you're going through.

[00:09:07] And so, and like we mentioned before, anybody that's, that is currently suffering, that have suffered, you know, any kind of physical abuse, whether it's literal, physical or, you know, messing with your mind, psychological, we're just praying for you and lifting you up. And praying that you can, that God will give you strength to be able to walk away, to walk away from that situation that's not conducive for your well-being. That's right. And for your mental.

[00:09:35] So listen, that's how we do, man. Amen. In Jesus name. Amen. All right. 30 short. All right, here we go. Why did you do a say on the slide in a fair drive? And was it fair? It's a. You want me to go first? Sure. Sure. Sure. Absolutely. It's a number of things though, but I think it's all, most of it is self-intested. I'm going to answer your question. Mm-hmm. Um, he slid because he was arrogant. He slid because he was arrogant. And.

[00:10:05] Yes, it was fair. And yes, it's fair. And that the arrogance in how he approached his business job interview. Yeah. His interviews is what did it. Yeah. So to answer your question, yes, he slid because he's arrogant and yes, it's fair. It's fair. Okay. I'm going to get too sorry for him. Right. He's got the number one selling jersey already. The bookies. Right. As a, as a, as a fourth string, but as a fourth string backup for the Browns. Number one. Number one.

[00:10:34] So did you see the, uh, boycott on, in, on social media that, so because of him sliding or whatever people who thought it was unfair, they decided to only shop on his website for a better apparel, shopping nobody else Nike and none of that. So they're going to shop just to. It's their prerogative. Yes. That's the way of the world, you know. So financially. Go for it. Go for it. He can't go wrong financially. No. Professionally.

[00:11:03] He's, he messed up. He laid an egg. He laid an egg. But let me ask you this. So this is our, what if question. What if. Shadour Sanders during his last year at Jackson state was guilty of sexual assault. Accused or guilty. Let's just say he was guilty of sexual assault and sexual abuse. It was handled, you know, obviously paid money. If quiet from that point on, he was respectful.

[00:11:32] He was humble. He did everything right in the draft process. He was not arrogant. Dion hired him an agent. He was not involved, but he had that sexual assault issue. Now, the question is, does he slide in the draft? I think he still does. Because of. Because of that, that far.

[00:11:55] Well, I don't know if it's that far, but I guess the question I'm asking is, is the NFL take sexual abuse as serious? I, they do. Compared to being arrogant. And they, they actually think about it. Yeah. They actually do. They do now. Now. Now. So I think he still slides. I don't know how far or that far, but he still slides. He still slides. So you said something in there that kind of made me.

[00:12:24] Do you think Dion had anything to do with him sliding? Yes. He didn't hire an agent. He didn't hire an agent. That. So you think that's solely the reason? No, I think, I think it's a darts or a dart board. There was another dart that was thrown.

[00:12:43] And that's the fact that you didn't hire an agent for your son and you didn't do the things that an agent should have done for him in terms of marketing him and making that transition, helping him making that transition. I agree. You're not going to be the front, the front office exec. Instead, you pissed him off. I think Dion was too involved. That's the second part. He was, and he was threatening in a way saying, don't, don't take my son at first. First it was, don't take my son. We're not.

[00:13:13] Well, I didn't even know. We're not. We're not. We're not. We're. We're. We're. We're. We're. We're. I think that was major. If I'm an organization, let's say I'm. And people don't want to have to deal with. They don't have to deal with that. If I'm a young. And I'm a young GM. I don't want to have to deal with Dion. You got to deal with. Young head coach. I don't want to deal with that. You're going to have to deal with Dion. Exactly. That's. And that's like a.

[00:13:42] Being under the thumb almost in a sense. So yeah. You can see. He should have separated himself. Now it's time to cut the cord, Dion. You've done all you can do. Cut the cord. Let him. Now be a part of the NFL process. Just as you were. You didn't have. You didn't have somebody, you know, relative taking care. He had an agent taking care of business. Here's my prediction. Shallow is going to be more successful at Tampa Bay.

[00:14:12] And shallow didn't even get freaking drafted. Shallow fired Dion. Facts. Shallow fired. And then hired an agent. Didn't hired an agent. Come on, man. Shallow going to do better at Tampa Bay than. Yeah. He'll do good. He'll get a special teams role. Strong safety. He'll get a good special teams role. Yeah. Wow. That was the way they have. That's. That was. Everybody was talking about it, man. That's. Everybody's talking about.

[00:14:41] Something like this. Relax. The dude still got money. I don't feel sorry for him. He's going to be all right. He's going to be fine, bro. Bible mystery segment. All right. All right. Finish this saying. Okay. When it's raining outside and the sun is shining. Now, before I finish this, just for y'all. I don't believe this. It's strictly myth. The devil is beating his wife. That's what we're talking about. The show. Right. Right. That's such a common thread and cross. Right. All.

[00:15:11] I didn't. Do I have that. You didn't have it. Right. And I knew you knew though. Right. It's crazy. So, but I just wanted to make, I wanted to preface it, but that's crazy how we, there's a, there's a, there's a scripture in the Bible that nobody really pays attention to because they, we just, we just glaze over it. And it says in Genesis two, it says that now the serpent was more subtle, his words subtle

[00:15:42] than any of the other beast of the field that the Lord God had made. Think about what it said. He was more subtle. That word subtle means almost, um, um, making himself look like he belonged, but he really didn't. Right. Now you can change and adapt. There's a, an animal that does that. The chameleon. Chameleon. Mm-hmm. He was more subtle.

[00:16:10] So he made, made the irregular look regular. Right. He made the abnormal look normal, even though it was not like fighting is not normal, but he makes it look normal. Our thoughts, our thoughts become distorted. Right. And they prep us, but he preps us for his presentation. Right. So when he makes his presentation, it's not jaw driving cause he's already prepped us for it. We numb to the violence now cause we're watching on TV. Right. We're watching people on TV. Right.

[00:16:39] So now it's, we, and then we, we, we're taught to be quiet about it when it's happening. Abuse. Quiet. My, my mom was embarrassed about that. She was ashamed. She was ashamed for anybody to know that she was, how many women put on makeup and hide the, and hide the, and hide the scar. The scar. Mm-hmm. Yeah. It's, we programmed for it, dude. Right. Take it. Tallulah, Tallulah, Tallulah. All right. All right.

[00:17:07] This is an incident of forcible rape and incest between Abnon and Tamar, the half-sibling children of King David. We talked about this, dude. Mm-hmm. In 2 Samuel 13, let me, let me say this. I'm gonna read this. Yeah. It says, however, he would not heed her voice. And being stronger than she, he forced her and he lay with her. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly so that he, the hatred with which he hated her was greater

[00:17:35] than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, rise and be gone. No, okay. It's crazy and it's fire that you bring this story out, especially that part right there. Right. The fact that he hated her more than, the hatred that was- The afterward. The afterward. Yeah. The after he did what he did. Right. You rape her. Your own sister. Yeah. He rapes his sister. Here's what's crazy.

[00:17:59] Before this, he told one of his partners, his cousin, he was like, man, I'm in love with my sister. Mm-hmm. He was like, I don't want it, I just can't help it. Instead of his cousin, the family member like, bro, dude. He helped him. He aided him. He said, this is what you do, play sick. Right. That's what he said. That's how she got there. That's how, and ask him to fix, and tell her you want something to eat. And he could eat it out, yeah. Eated out of hand.

[00:18:30] And from there, bro- When she got cornered, that was it. That was it. Oh. So now, one of the things that it caused her to do was, she had a robe of many colors. Mm-hmm. The Bible says that was given to her by the king. First thing she did was, she tore that robe. The robe represents her identity. Right. So here's, let me talk to somebody that's listening to it on the airways. Don't give up your identity because somebody stronger than you forced you. Right. You didn't do nothing wrong. Right. You're still intact. You're still a queen. Right. You're still a child of God. You're still a son of God.

[00:18:58] Don't let somebody else did to you cause you to tear or rip or deny your identity. Yep. That's what, it'll happen. That's right. Right. That's serious. That's crazy, bro. Y'all, listen. On and off the field, we no joke. We take it serious. We might laugh and we get our laugh on, but when it comes to this kind of stuff, we starch up about it. And this affects the community, families and community severely, dude. Facts. Facts.

[00:19:29] Facts. God. On that note, we should laugh. We need to, bro. Class clown. Gotcha. All right. What did the drummer say? What did the drummer say? What did the, oh God. He didn't even, he can't even read it. All right. Go ahead. What did the drummer name his twin daughters? What? Anna one, and a two.

[00:20:01] All right. How do you make your girlfriend cry while having sex? Oh. Oh my goodness. Phone her. Oh my goodness. That's crazy. All right. Two deaf people are married and they have difficulty communicating in bed about sex in the dark. So the wife says, if you want sex, squeeze my left breast. And if you don't squeeze my right, the guy says, okay.

[00:20:26] And well, for me, if you, if I want sex, yank my penis one time. If you don't want sex, yank it 50 times. That's all the whole problem right there. All right. Why do women like to have sex with the lights off? Why? They can't stand to see a man with a good, have a good time. Wow. That's a good one. What do you call a pregnant flight attendant? What? Pilot error. Facts.

[00:20:56] Every time, bro. Why shouldn't you buy anything with Velcro? Why? Because it's a total rip off. Yeah. A man and a woman were having drinks when they got into an argument about who enjoys sex more. The man said, men obviously enjoy sex more than women. Why do you think we're so obsessed with getting laid? That doesn't prove anything the woman encountered. Think about this. She said, when your ear itches, you put your finger in it and wiggle it around, then pull it out.

[00:21:25] Which feels better your ear or your finger? Wow. That's crazy. That's crazy. My freaking ear. You got to put your thing in the ear. Wow. What do you call a spider with 10 eyes? What? A spider with 10 eyes. I got one. Just before we move on, honorable mention from my nephew.

[00:21:55] Shout out to Miles. Here's his joke. Here's his joke. Okay. Why do women wipe their eyes when they wake up? Why? Because they don't have any balls. That's my 11 year old nickname. It's true. Miles. Yeah, man. All right. Two thumbs up segment. All right.

[00:22:23] What's love got to do with it? Tallulah, Tallulah. Sleeping with the enemy. So look. Both of those. Well, right. I mean. The movies. You couldn't ask for any more vivid portrait of domestic violence. Especially on, well, both of them. Both of them. But let's take, look, what's love got to do with it first? Ike. Ike. That was crazy. Eat the cake anime. Eat the cake anime. You know.

[00:22:49] He was a mentally, verbally abusive and physically abusive. Okay. So watch this. With a cocaine problem. Right. I guarantee you that if you looked at his background, he comes, he was a byproduct of that. Of that. Sure. Either somebody beat him. Right. Or something. Whatever people do to you. Yeah. Is because somebody did it to them. Yeah. Most of the time. I mean, you could kind of, do you think you can go back way back?

[00:23:19] Like, and say black men were beaten. Oh, so why do, oh my goodness. You think that's why they beat? Oh. From slavery. Mm-hmm. You can probably go back that far. You just said something that I never freaking thought about, bro. The descendants of ba-boom, ba-boom, ba-boom, ba-boom, ba-boom, ba-boom. That's crazy. What they had to carry each generation. Listen. My dad's dad was very abusive.

[00:23:49] I doubt, again, that word, I use that word indelible. Mm-hmm. Like, something, when it's traumatic. Yeah. And that was, and that was a trauma for a generation of men. Right. Generations. That was false. Yeah. Well, when I say generation of men, because it started it. Yeah. With that generation of slavery. Oh, wow. Can you imagine? Yeah. Yeah. Because they would be. I mean, it's not like that goes, that doesn't go away. Like, it happened and then you start a new generation of men.

[00:24:19] Well, unless somebody breaks. Those scars are passed on. You know what? But I believe if you, nobody stopped to break that generational curse. Because that's a curse. Mm-hmm. That own black men. Right. That we're carrying. Right. That. Wow. You figure if you had this amount of people doing it, over time, it shrinks. But it's still there. I believe. We, there's a, I just heard like beast of burden. We would, beast of burden. Yes.

[00:24:49] They were treated like beast of burden. Right. And how do you do the beast of a beast of burden? It's a beast of burden. Mm-hmm. The name says it all. Says it all. It's a beast that bears a burden. Right. And that's what. And what do you do with burdens? You carry them with you. Shoot, man. Hmm. We gotta break these generational curses, man. Right. Right. These are generational curses that's plaguing our. Right. Our people. That's crazy. Right. Ah, okay. Yeah. And sleeping with the enemy, he was the same way.

[00:25:19] Very controlling. Very controlling. Yeah. So the question is, how can we see television and not have the brain process that is real, even though it's fantasy? Does Hollywood have an impact on? Absolutely. Passing that? 100%. Well, let me say, it's 50-50. We, uh. But domestic violence is okay. No, exactly. We, part of it is our fault because we let that, that, we let it tell us a vision. Right. It's.

[00:25:49] We watch it. We let it tell us a vision. So if you watch something long enough, even if it's a lie, after a while, it becomes your truth. It becomes truth. The brain, that's what I'm saying. The brain can't tell anything. The brain accepts it. Yeah. Your brain downloads it. Right. Like, okay, this is all we watching, then it must be the norm. So, hey, let's do this. Mm-hmm. Jeez. Mm-hmm.

[00:26:12] I hope if you're listening to this, if you are a person that's an abuser, please consider what you felt like when somebody did you like that. Mm-hmm. Please consider what you felt like when somebody talked to you like that. Please consider what you felt like when you were browbeaten by somebody, when you do that to somebody. Yeah.

[00:26:39] And they have to feel a lot of self-conflicted hatred towards themselves for feeling that way, even being that way. Yeah. What's the saying? Hurting people hurt people. Yeah. God. Sheesh, man. All right. First and ten. First and ten, man. The Ray Rice incident and the impact video cameras on domestic violence. Ray Rice had it. Somebody else did it too.

[00:27:09] It's a few. Yeah. He got caught. But Ray Rice, man. Ray Rice was... They... They... They... He was blackballed from that day forth. Yeah. Like you talking about hitting the stop button. Well, you couldn't help but to do that. You had to. Especially the severity of the video. Yeah. He dragged her off to... You have... Your business is say 50 to 55% women.

[00:27:38] They had to. They go to the games. His career... They watch the games. Got put to a... Yeah. A halt. Consequence. Oh. Serious consequence. Well, I say consequently. He does not... But think of all that... The norm that must have been for him to do that. Well, again, I guarantee if you check his background, you'll probably find... Some violence. Some violence. Yeah. Well, he was a victim of it. Mm-hmm. He watched it long enough... Yeah.

[00:28:08] To... Become a byproduct of it. Yeah. And bear the same fruit that he saw. Mm-hmm. Which is not good. Right. All right. Comics and cartoons. Comics and cartoons say that... Andy Cap. You familiar with Andy Cap? No. So, you know the Andy Cap Hot Fries? Yes. Okay. So, that character was a newspaper character. Like the Sunday cartoons? Mm-hmm. He was a newspaper cartoon character. Right. They...

[00:28:37] Strips probably like two to three thousand comic strips. Okay. Yeah. He was known for being a British guy, but he had over 140 examples of domestic violence. Okay. It shows him discussing his pleasures of beating up his wife Flo saying... The first strip saying he knocks her out, he knocks her about. His violence was acceptable during that time because it was... That's what it was.

[00:29:05] So, when you say he depicts the way he beats his wife, was he literally beating his wife? Yes. And so, he would depict it through the comics? Yes. So, he was a... They showed 140 examples of him doing domestic violence to her. It's talking about it. Through the comic? Through the comic. And several where she was giving it to him.

[00:29:33] So, it was going both ways? Both ways. What the hell, bro? They had a traditional domestic abusive violent relationship between each other. That just did not make any sense. Right. But he was a celebrated cartoon figure. We eat the handicap hot fries to this day. Facts. I don't eat them, but I used to. You see them? That's crazy. They still sell them. And they sell it out. They didn't... Why didn't we... We boycott them. Boycott those.

[00:30:03] Yeah, exactly. You pick and choose what you know. Wow, bro. This is so crazy. So, alright. Serenity now. Serenity now. Here we go. Domestic violence significantly impacts mental health. What? You think? You think? By increasing the risk of depression, anxiety, PTSD, and even suicidal thoughts. Victims may also experience substance abuse. Yes. Relationship difficulties. Yes. And social isolation.

[00:30:32] If you need help, you can speak with someone today at the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Call 800-799-7233. That's 800-799-7233. I can attest to all of this. It does. I have... Yep. I'm definitely in PTSD. Yeah. Yep. So, I mean, you speaking from your own personal... From experience. Uh-huh.

[00:31:02] PTSD from witnessing and being a victim of domestic violence. Right. Absolutely. Absolutely. In a home and in a house where I trusted both my parents. Mm-hmm. Because I was abused by both of them. Right. That, my mom did her for that share. Right. Verbally, psychologically. No, not... Never sexually. I was never... Let me make that clear.

[00:31:30] I was never sexually abused by my parents or anything like that. Anybody in my family. Uh... It was most... It was verbal, physical, psychological. Which are really... They're just as bad as... Right. Yeah. Same impact. Same impact. Yep. You know what? Uh... David... David was rejected by...

[00:31:59] You know, think about something. Mm-hmm. David's son raped his... His own sister. Right. Where did he get that from? Wasn't David kind of out there? Thank you. Yeah. I'm just walking you right into it. Okay, okay. Yeah, it's no trick question. I'm being facetious. Because after that movie... After that movie... After he slayed Goliath, he got the... He got very... The spoils. Yes. David was a whorish man.

[00:32:28] He got the spoils. He went through... Yes. He loved women. Yeah. So... Think about it. He's named the king of England... King of Israel. I mean... Come on, bro. And now all of a sudden, he's... Yeah. And he was... All right. Red flags. All right. Red flags. These are warning signs to look for when you're seeing someone dealing with domestic abuse or domestic violence. Ooh. All right. Excessive jealousy. Controlling behavior. Uh-huh.

[00:32:58] Unrealistic expectations. Uh-huh. Blaming others for problems. Uh-huh. If you... Or if you witness this person being cruel to animals or other children. Okay. Now, one of them that... One of them that stick out is blaming others for problems and unrealistic expectations. You can't even be in a relationship with somebody. Like somebody that's a... A female that's a victim of domestic violence. Uh-huh. Yeah. Grew up front. You can't... Over with.

[00:33:28] Uh-huh. Because you'll never be able to be enough. You can't fix what was broke before you got there. Well, that's where they would need to find closure. Right. And for themselves. Because you can't be... You can't be through the relationship. Right. That's not the answer. And they'll never be in a steady relationship. Right. It won't let... No matter what... Uh-huh.

[00:33:57] And listen, ladies, let me tell y'all something. There's a difference between being able to keep... To have sex rather than keeping a man. Uh-huh. It's a difference. It's easy to have sex. Right. To keep a man... If you've been through domestic, you're gonna have to close that chapter in order to even

[00:34:27] keep that man. And vice versa. Right. Whoever was... Whether it's the man that was... In order to keep that woman, you can't live through... Right. ...your life through that past domestic violence. Like, abuse. Yeah. You gotta... That's gotta die. That's gotta die. Yeah. It's gotta die. Yeah. You can't treat it. Right. That's the other thing. What you gonna treat it for? Treat what? How? It's got to die. It's gotta die. I ain't treating nothing. Right.

[00:34:57] Treat it how? Treat it nice? It's got to die. We ain't treating it. Right. You gotta get rid of it. Most people, these pills treat it. You know, these pills... No, they get you high long enough for you to begin another little realm. Mm-hmm. And forget about the fact that the reality is domestic abuse and the violence is still going on. And something you hadn't given up or you hadn't forgiven. You gotta let it go. So, yeah. Man, this is... Oh, my goodness. Sheesh. Yes. All right.

[00:35:27] Black folk segment... Look, black folk segment come right behind a red flag. Yeah. What do you... Here's a question. What do you think contributes to black women being violent and abusive to their spouse or partner? I... Because they were abused verbally, physically, mentally. It was done to them. Right.

[00:35:56] And it goes right crazy enough. I didn't even know that was coming next. It goes with my previous statement. If you've been a victim of domestic violence or abuse, you won't be able to maintain a whole relationship. You're not gonna be in a relationship. You'll have sex. You'll keep having sex. And you'll keep bouncing. But you won't. I've known... I'm telling you, I've known women from child that fighting was not an issue. Fighting was not an issue. It was the norm. The norm.

[00:36:26] The norm. The norm. Cussing you out. And we're... Getting angry quick. But here's the thing. Sheesh. At the elementary school age, I would say I would never pick or try and start a fight with a woman. But if certain girls were coming at you, you had to fight. Because they were gonna go to town on you. They were hellbent on you. Right. It's... People that get mad fast. That's... Anger issue. From domestic...

[00:36:56] Yeah. Domestic violence. It goes hand in hand. Yeah. That's crazy, bro. Look at your neighbor. Look at your neighbor. Look at your neighbor. All right. In the U.S., domestic violence disproportionately affects ethnic minorities. Among ethnic minority groups, African American and Native American men and women are most likely to experience domestic violence. Again, so are we... So, so, so, now African American and Native Americans. Look at all the... So you talking about blacks and Indians?

[00:37:25] So what's our in common? What's our in common? We were slaves. The treatment. We were slaves. And the treatment. The treatment. The treatment. The PTSD passed down. Yeah. Man, Indians and black people ought to get along. You would think. Because we both took ass-whippings. Yeah. For years. Yeah. For being people of color. Right. I guess. I don't know.

[00:37:54] Hell yeah or hell no. Hell no. Is Shannon Sharp guilty of abuse? Hell yeah. Shannon Sharp is a... But we had constituent sex now. That's what she wanted. I think, you know what? I think my answer is biased because I'm kind of upset with Shannon Sharp. But I can't get you upset with him because God helped me dodge some bullets in my... Come on. I understand. We're not judging him. Oh. Shannon, we're not judging.

[00:38:23] We're not passing any judgment. Yeah, yeah. But that action comes with consequences. That wasn't it, brother. That was not it, brother. No. It's a bad look. It's a bad look. All right. It's all about the relationship segment. All right. You'll like this one. Okay. I like all of them. A child will look anyone in the eye and say, this game is no longer fun and simply stop playing it without hesitation, without guilt. Okay.

[00:38:53] We should be doing the same thing as adults with bad lovers, bad friends, bad jobs. The same... You got me banging my cup. You got me banging my cup, boy. You banging the jail cell cups. Oh, you talking heavy right now. Yeah. I mean, if you think about it, if you're an adult in a relationship... Keep reading that, please. ...with the same hate we have for ourselves, you should stop.

[00:39:17] We should still be doing the same thing with bad lovers, bad friends, bad jobs with the same hate we have for us. Ooh. That's heavy, brother. But think this thing like a child. What would a child do if he was in an abusive relationship? I don't want this, mama. I'm out. You're my ball. I'm going home. I'm going home. Facts. Shout out to the children, bro. They teach us things. And a child is shown even. Yes.

[00:39:47] African proverb. It is until a mosquito lands on your testicles when you learn that violence does not solve our problems. That is a crazy African proverb. And which African sat there and let a mosquito lands on his balls. That's crazy. Health as well, dude. Call Nurse Thiccums. Oh! Nurse Thiccums. Here we go. He's going to know.

[00:40:20] Hello. It's Nurse Thiccums. How you doing, Nurse Thiccums? Welcome to Honing Out the Field Sports Podcasting. You know how we do. Oh, I'm glad that I have you. I want to talk about health as well. How you been doing first? Oh, I'm doing fine. I'm up to one lap a day now. One lap? One lap. I'm up to one lap. What you doing a lap? Boom. The track? Yeah. Are you tired? No, no. I told you my head noise.

[00:40:53] Okay, go ahead. Just think. Did you have something you wanted to share with us today? So, with health as well and domestic violence, physical activity can help individuals feel more empowered, improve self-esteem, and reduce stress and anxiety. All of which can be beneficial in the aftermath of domestic violence. Okay.

[00:41:23] And let me say this. I wish Mr. Thiccums would put his hands on Nurse Thiccums. Cause I want to sit on him, squash him and destroy him!

[00:42:14] Water coming out, Ron. Listen, bro. Oh my goodness, y'all. Nurse Thiccums does not play. She said, Mr. H. A. something. One thing we ain't got to worry about is Mr. Thiccums putting his hands on Nurse Thiccums.

[00:42:43] Now that somebody ain't going to let you get up. Boy, shout out to Nurse Thiccums, bro. I just want to, we're going to check back with her. I'm going to make sure she saw the count of tide, yo. Be honest. She did sound kind of tired. I'm going to have to keep checking all that. We got a Chinese proverb. Oh my goodness. So this one is a real proverb now that's under fire. Ish. Okay. Yeah.

[00:43:12] Beating is caring and scolding is intimacy. Yeah, that's under fire. Let me finish reading this. This proverb, while historically used, is now widely criticized and seen as a justification for abuse. Absolutely. That's not, uh, no, no, no, no, no, we can't do that. Because of the regularity and normalization of it for so long, those type of quotes and proverbs were taught. Okay. That's what was taught.

[00:43:41] So I had. For generations. So I had a young lady to tell me once that, um, at one point in time in her life that if she was with a man and he didn't jump on her or beat her up or, you know, put his hands on her, that she thought he didn't love her. She literally said that. Like, well, you know, why would she say that? Because that was the norm.

[00:44:10] That was the norm of what she's. She used to love it. She saw. Exactly. She used to love it. Exactly. And when she said that, I'm like, wow, that's something, that's something to think about. That's something to think about. Yeah. Yeah. Wow, man. Listen, this is, this show is very emotional. I'm, I'm laughing one time. We're not laughing at. No, we're not. But it's just, you know, it is what it is. Oh my God. All right. Mary's Nerd Nugget Fun Facts. All right. You know, I like this.

[00:44:39] In the late 1600s, a serious spanker named Thomas Wallace. Man, bye. Used to terrorize the streets of London with his spanking tactics. Bruh, bye. Nicknamed the whipping Tom, this man would assault unaccompanied women by lifting their dresses and spanking their butts while yelling, Spanko. I know you lying to me on this show. No. Come on, bro. Come on, man. Yeah. What the?

[00:45:11] Where is, nah, you know what you need to be. That's a fun fact. You know what you need to be scared of? His offspring. Right. Hmm. Hmm. Cause there's some spankers. There's some of those spankos. Running around right now. Right now. His seeds. Watch out for the wallaces. I'm sorry. Okay. They spanked. All right. Okay.

[00:45:42] Things that make you go, hmm. Okay. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women. More than car accidents, muggings and rapes combined. Well, let me tell you why that's not jaw dropping for me. Because I've been adapted, not adapted, but. I understand. Kind of in a sense program. You saw.

[00:46:12] You saw. You was there. You were there. Hmm. You were on the front line. You were there. Right. And that just said, it made me say hmm. That just made me say hmm. Okay. Did you know? Mm-hmm. Every nine seconds in the U.S. a woman is assaulted or beaten. Damn. No, bro. And see, that bothers me because like I said, and I forgive, listen, I forgive my sister, me and my sister, we forgive my dad for what he's done. Right.

[00:46:41] And we forgive my mom. I'm not going to bring one up without break. Right. We forgive our mom for what she did to our dad. Right. It went both ways. Right, right, right. I promise you it went both ways. But we're only finding out my mom's part here like in our older years. You know what I mean? As we get older because at the time. Covering more layers. Right. Because at the time he looked like the bad guy. Mm-hmm. Strictly the monster. Mm-hmm. Because we saw something to manifest to him, but we didn't hear what she was saying.

[00:47:11] Right. To him. Right, right. So you don't hear what the, you know what I mean? Yeah. Verbal abuses, verbal abuses. What's the saying? Uh, sticks and stones may break your bones, but words. May break your bones, but names will never hurt me. That's a lie. That's a lie. That is a lie. That statement is a lie. That's crazy. Wow. All right. Helpful hints.

[00:47:37] When choosing your school and transfer portal, be on the lookout for a care ward. Okay. Okay. So, so the train, everybody talking about the transfer portal in college football, right? Dude. So the backstory of Miami last year. We talked about this too. Yeah. Reese Poffenbarger. You ever heard of him? Reese Poffenbarger. You mentioned him to me.

[00:48:02] He was the transfer quarterback from Albany state in New York. Okay. Had all these, you know, subdivision passing records was considered, you know, wow, you know, huge talent. He transfers to Miami. Okay. Mm-hmm. Entres the portal, transfers to Miami, enrolls at Miami. Mm-hmm. Guess who comes at a week later? Cam Ward. Cam Ward. That's crazy. Whole year wasted. Whole year wasted. That's, you talking about, and like I said, we just talked about this yesterday. I know. That's crazy.

[00:48:32] Same way I told you yesterday off air, you talking about hard luck, dude. Hard luck. Oh my goodness. So where is he now? He just transferred again to North Texas. You know. Now, here's my prediction. There's a kid at North Texas that played at the last game. He's going to win the starting job. At North Texas. Oh my goodness. Yeah. Puff, listen, Puff and Barger, if you're listening to me, keep your head up. Keep your head up. Yeah. We're going to do it.

[00:49:02] That's like the talent show at the, winning the talent show with R. Kelly. Do we talk, what do we do? Oh my goodness. All right. New segment. New segment. Church announcements. Yes. Oh, we're going to do church announcements now.

[00:49:25] So, this Friday, we will have evening massage at 6 PM sponsored by Happy Enders Chinese Buffet. Cash only, please. Cash only, please. Look, are we going to talk about the jail that I can? So, listen.

[00:49:54] So, imagine, imagine the dude that used to win all the talent shows in jail. In jail. He's blowing. Like, he's probably singing all the, probably singing some of R. Kelly songs. Right. But now, R. Kelly show up to the jail. All the guys like, man, you hear R. Kelly coming to you? What you going to do now?

[00:50:25] You still going to perform? His career over in prison. Over. I told Coach yesterday, I had Coach cranking up. R. Kelly came in the transfer portal. If he got 20 to life, bro, he got to spend the rest of his life listening to R. Kelly say, If I can see it, then I can do it. If I can't believe it, there's nothing to it.

[00:50:54] I believe I can fly. I can touch the sky. Think about it. He'll be like. Spend my wings and... And then somebody going to say, somebody going to say, somebody going to say, hey, hey,

[00:51:22] hey, no, no, you sung that last year, didn't it? Then you sung that last year. Not this shit, nigga. He out. The real R. Kelly show up. Oh my goodness. It's over with, bro. They got to be mad. He's mad. He's mad. He got to get a new career. Like Reese Poffenberg.

[00:51:47] As soon as he show up, Cam Ward show up like, and they gained Cam Ward captain to see on the jersey the first day. R. Kelly right now writing songs for people in the jail. He got it on lock. All of the, you know, people that like me. Oh, Robert. Oh, my God. Back to the church announcement. No stickles going to give us the church announcement.

[00:52:16] Oh, my God. I want to thank you, Pastor, for letting me announce for the Health is Wealth Committee. We'll be hosting a blood drive on tomorrow. Each participant will receive a three-piece chicken meal from Popeyes, our church sponsor. And for more information, email NurseNiccum at churchhealthiswealth.com. Oh, my goodness. Thank you. Oh, my goodness.

[00:52:46] Listen. We done messed around, let Thickums in the church. And she already told us that Mr. Thickums can't touch her. Because she going to put hands on him. She going to sit on him. All right.

[00:53:01] The Low Self Esteem Support Group will meet this Thursday at 7 p.m. Please use the back door.

[00:54:08] Okay, listen. Sorry, Low Self Esteem. Yeah, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Listen, y'all. In no way are we making fun of anybody with Low Self Esteem. But please use the back door only, man. Okay. All right. The women who look like men will meet in meeting room five after service. And no more shaving on church property, please.

[00:54:39] Okay. I'm sorry. The annual chitling cook-off has been moved to the next Saturday because of wealth. Well, please cover yourselves according to these announcements. It's a church announcement. It's a church announcement. It's a church announcement. And we're going to fall down.

[00:55:13] Oh, boy. Listen. These segments are running together now, y'all. Oh, my goodness. They're overlapping. All right. Am I ready for this? Ephesians 5, chapter 5, verse 25. All right. Instructs husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church, implying a relationship built on care and protection. Yes. Can you elaborate? Yes, yes, yes. And really, is this who's talking to the Ephesians?

[00:55:44] Paul. Paul is talking to Ephesians, church in Ephesus. So, you know what's crazy, dude? The reason he even had to address the marriage situation that people don't know. If you go and look at what the Bible says, it says husbands, it says wives love your own husbands. Husbands love your own wives. It says own. You know why I put O-W-E-N in there? Get out of affairs.

[00:56:14] It was swinging back in the day. So, in some of this, one part of the city of Ephesus, right? There was a whorehouse on a hill. Mm-hmm. And the men would go up to the whore. Yeah, man. And it was an issue. It affected the church. Yeah, yeah. And consequently, the community. Mm-hmm. So, for Paul here saying, listen, this is how serious it is.

[00:56:42] I'm going to make the comparison between your relationship with your wife. I'm going to compare it to Christ's relationship to the church. Right, right. He gave himself for her. Right. Right. Wash her with the word. Present her to himself. Right. Faultless, without, you know, blameless. Mm-hmm. It's that serious. Because he was, he was bad in the house, dude. He was bad, right.

[00:57:11] Just like it is now. It's bad. Listen, one of the, one of the things that happened to me, being in domestic violence, coming out of that and witnessing it, one of the, because you're going to do something. Mm-hmm. You're going to have a response. Right. So, mine was, I became promiscuous. Mm-hmm. Like, I guess, can men be promiscuous? Or is that strictly women?

[00:57:41] No. That's both. It goes either way. Okay. That's right. Fair to say. So, I became that. So, that was my, that and drugs, cocaine. I didn't, I did it, you know, for that to, didn't get hooked on it or nothing, but I used it to numb what I was feeling. Sure. Drugs, sex, you know what I mean? Alcohol. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So, you call it sad. Sex, alcohol, and drugs. Mm-hmm.

[00:58:11] That's what it is. I was sad. Right. Because I was using those three. You used to numb. Yeah. I understand. Even as 12 years old. I understand. Then, you know, yeah. So, to address that, he's saying, you know, love your own husbands as Christ loved the church. The comparison is the big thing. So, you know, to understand the severity of it, you must understand how much Christ loved the church. How much did he love the church? He gave his life. He gave his life for it. He gave his life for it. As he loved his own body. Right.

[00:58:39] So, he says, love your wives as you love your own body. Mm-hmm. So, that's how we know when you go back to what Amnon did to his sister. He hated her. After he did what he did. That's crazy. It was from within. Right. Yeah. It was from within. Yeah.

[00:59:09] That negative consequence of what he did. We're going to respond. We're going to have a response to abuse. Mm-hmm. You're gonna have one. You're gonna have one. And most of us have more than one. Mm-hmm. We reject other people because of it. And more than one outlet. Right. We have trust issues. Mm-hmm. We, we, we, you know what we do in essence? We tell everybody decent and nice. Say, you know what? Come on, give me the bad part of you because I know it's in there. Mm-hmm.

[00:59:39] Because everybody gives me the bad part of them. Right. Come on. Right. Hit me. Cuss me out. Call me names. Talk down on me. Cause that's what I'm used to. Right. And we do that. We don't realize it. We'll start arguments. Say, like, come on, spurn it on because I know it's coming. Right. It won't catch me by surprise this time. Right. That's how we do. Right. It's... Yoda, Yoda, Yoda!

[01:00:12] Yoda's, that was just as good of a Yoda as any other ones. Mm-hmm. It's just the fact that I hope we realize, and I think people that have been through abuse try to elaborate to say, hey, please understand. Mm-hmm. I beseech you. Right. I'm begging you. Right. If you're doing it, stop. Be considerate. And if you're being abused, leave. Right. Get away from that. That is not love.

[01:00:42] Be like the child. Just walk away. I don't like this game. I don't like this game. I'm out. That's as simple as... That's fire, bro. All right. Q&A. Hey, hey, buddy. Hey, buddy. Hey, Rick. Hey, Rick. I got a couple of questions for you there, if you don't mind me asking you for, buddy. Come on, buddy. Name four days of the week that start with the letter T. There's T as in time there, Rick. Tuesday. One. Thursday.

[01:01:12] And two. Uh... All right. Come on. Two. Start with a T. Today and tomorrow! Oh, my goodness. Give me a joke. Oh, my goodness. That was good. That was good. You sweet. You sweet. Come on. Okay.

[01:01:42] What is a group of owls called there, Rick? Uh... I know this is interesting there, but what is it? A parliament. A what? A parliament. Parliament. A parliament. Okay. All right. What's the last one there, Rick? What's the longest English word without a vowel? Jeez, you got me. Come on. Rhythm. Rhythm? Rhythm. Wow. R-H-Y-T-H-M. Okay. Rhythm!

[01:02:12] Random. I got a lot of rhythm there, Rick. I can boogie. You know what? I used to do the walk. You're right. All right. Random... Random 3AM thought segment. Eating a lollipop is just swallowing your own flavored saliva. Ick! It is... Ick!

[01:02:42] Doggone it. No more doggone freaking lollipops. It is physically impossible for pigs to look up into the sky. Really? Yeah. They can't look up in the sky? With their vertebrae in their neck, they can't look up. Wow! That's gotta be bad. Yeah, only side to side. So they never seen the sky? Never seen the sky. They got to turn over to look at it. And when they turn over, you know what that means. Over with. Bacon!

[01:03:12] Bacon! Bacon! All right. Marilyn Monroe and Queen Elizabeth were born in the same year, 1927. That's lit. Yeah. Listen. I'm sure Marilyn Monroe was one of them ones, boy. Ooh. Why she died early? No offense. Now, was she the one with the picture of the red dress in the subway and it's blowing up the red dress? Yes. The white dress. I thought it was red. They remade it, the woman in red.

[01:03:42] Really? Yeah. But the original was Marilyn in the white dress. Wow. Yeah. Okay. That lifestyle. That's that lifestyle. Okay. This is the art segment. Oh boy. Okay. This is actually a real song. Okay. So all I did was just take this from a real song. Yeah. Yeah. And this is called, this is called my girl's pussy. It's called my girl's pussy.

[01:04:16] It's my girl's pussy. Yeah. Where did you get that voice from? Samra Davis. Oh my goodness. Blue bag music segment. Blue bag. All right. Women's Shand, born in 1978, is a Canadian R&B soul singer. Best known for his hit single to date, Take a Massage. Take a Message. Take a Message. Take a Message.

[01:04:45] Released in late 2001. I don't... Take a Message from my love. Take a Message. You got me? You ever heard that one? Wow. No. That's a new one. That's a good one. All right. Quotes of the week. I said take a massage. All right. Coach, coach, coach. Quotes of the week. Quotes of the week. When writing the story of your life, never let anyone else hold the pen. Fire. Oh no. That's fire. Tallulah, Tallulah, Tallulah.

[01:05:13] If someone is trying to bring you down, they are already below you. Wow. Listen. I had a situation the other day. Thank God for deliverance. I never... It'll never have a chance to happen to me again. Somebody just negative. Like... And you know, you try to befriend people and try each other. Mm-mm. Right. When I was walking away, I was thanking God for deliverance. For real. I believe it. Oh my goodness. I believe it. All right. Get out of here, Dewey.

[01:05:43] Get out of here, Dewey. What others say about you is their business. What you believe about you is your business. Uh-huh. Right. You wouldn't let a stranger decorate your home. Why would you let them decorate your mind? That's fire. Yeah. That's fire. So think about people dealing with mental abuse. That's fire. Yeah. Uh... The old folk used to say, uh... It ain't your job to stop folk from talking about you.

[01:06:13] Just make sure they lying. Right. Right. I love you so much that even when you hurt me, I tried to understand you. Yes. I'm... Boy, you just don't know. I love you so much. Even when you was trying to hurt me with words, harsh words, being negative, bringing up the past. I tried to understand you.

[01:06:43] But you know what? Deuces. I'm like that little kid. I don't wanna play this game no more. I don't play the game no more. I don't play no more. We're not playing... I'm not playing that game. It's not fun. It's not fun no more. So we're not playing that one anymore. Thanks for the time, though. Sorry. Bye. Bye-bye. Oh, can I have my ball back, please? Like where the little boy say, bye, little insect. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.

[01:07:10] Chris, which in the middle of ocean has no right to know what the sharks did to you or how you managed it to get it to shore. That's fire again! Where'd you get that from? Lost in translation segment. Kushi- trav darumus. Kushi sabi shah. Kushi sabi shah. It's Japanese for when you're not hungry but you eat because your mouth is lazy.

[01:07:38] That is weird, Charlie. Okay, why is it that? I got it. Have you ever been sitting, watching television, and you've already eaten? You're not hungry, you're full, and then you used to start eating chips or something else, snacking on something? I have, sir. I won't look at you funny anymore. The Japanese are saying, your mouth is lonely. That still sounds sus to me. Well, I see them. Lost in translation segment.

[01:08:08] It is, but you know, hot dog water, bro. That's what it make me feel like, bro. Why is it that, before we move on, why is it that you can be just, like you said, just eating, then you see Chinese food on TV and you want some? It makes you hungry. Subliminal marketing. Chinese food makes you hungry. Yeah, subliminal marketing. Wow, why is it just Chinese, though?

[01:08:37] I don't see a rump roast on there and I get like, mmm, but Chinese food. But who's going to advertise a rump roast except for a grocery store? It ain't even chicken, though. Spelling me. Meow. Meow. Meow. Meow. All right, come on. All right. This is called khakis to crassi. Khakis to crassi. Like democracy.

[01:09:05] Khakis to crassi. And you want me to spell that? Government run by the least qualified. And you want me to spell that? Mm-hmm. Khakis to crassi. I have no clue. Spell it. K-A-K- K. I-S-T. K. O-C-R-A-C-Y. I would have never gotten that. Yeah. Khakis to crassi. If I like depending on it, we see. Huh? To the up. To the up. Perception versus perspective segment.

[01:09:35] Seven daily sins versus what the soul spirit wants. So I saw this is the video. Right. Before you go through. Okay. And it basically says these are the sins that you're dealing with. Right. Right. But you're feeling uneasy because your soul wants this. So I'm going to name the deadly sin and then what you really want. Right. Pride. You really want self-love. Mm-hmm. Sloth. You really want peace. Mm-hmm. Wrath.

[01:10:05] Anybody know what sloth is? Sloth is being lazy, being slow for. Mm-hmm. Okay. Lust, union is the answer. Greed, generosity is the answer. Gluttony, nourished is the answer. That was good. Yeah. That was really good. That's what your soul wants. Final drive. Sports number one. You mentioned the soul.

[01:10:35] That's where your mind, will, and emotions live in your soul. When they're all connected, that's when it goes real good. Yikes. Yes. Right. Old to McNutt. Old to McNutt. One day, Monica McNutt, you're going to be flattered with approval. Yes, you will. And you're going to shout out on and off the field dot com.

[01:11:05] I just figured I'd put them in there, too. Oh, Monica. Come on. Shattered paces scattered wide, a heavy cloak I used to hide. But whispers turned to a rising roar, and strength I didn't know was in store. Through shadows deep, I found the light. A fragile hope burning bright.

[01:11:38] Each step forward, a victory won. A new beginning bravely begun. The scars remain. A story told. Yeah. Of a spirit fierce, brave, and bold. No longer bound by fear's dark chain. And I rise in power again and again. Ad to McNutt. Oh, and then we turn around with an A to the light days.

[01:12:07] So this is sent in to us. By who? This is somebody trying to get in our poetry game. Really? This was sent to us by a special listener. Okay. So this is called The Ground Beneath the Flood. Thank you, special listener. Yes, thank you, special listener. Even after the flood, the ground remembers to grow. That's fire. How to grow.

[01:12:36] Drilling to the bottom is exhilarating, yet it comes at a cost. When the water line is pierced, something sacred is seemingly lost. The freedom of peace of mind is veiled by the first delicate trickles whispering in. Soft at first, then unstoppable. It overflows, washes away sanity, erodes tranquility, and dilutes joy.

[01:13:05] Wow, sense of self unravels as streams of paranoia creep through cracks. Geysers of jealousy erupt without warning. A dark sea of uncertainty rises, flooding the light, submerging the soft ground of love. It spills into jealousy's delta, where tears tear through the heart's vessels, dragging the mind under siege. Until drowning in oceans of confusion, my hand reaches out in desperation and touches solid ground.

[01:13:34] It feels your heartbeat cadence beneath the sand and silt. And something forgotten begins to rise again. That's fire. Fire! Fire! Infamy? That's our secret guest. Is it our engineer? I have a feeling that sounds like that. You have a feeling! That sounds engineer-ish! That sounds geisha-ish! That sounds geisha-ish!

[01:14:03] Is that geisha-ish? If it smells, then don't think sick. Turn twister! Turn twister, okay. Oh my goodness. Nice. Sweet Shannon stuck sour should do a silly suit, sharp sanders. Sweet Shannon stuck sour should do a silly suit, sharp sanders. Sweet Shannon stuck sour should do a silly suit, sharp sanders. Nice! Booyah! Booyah! Oh boy.

[01:14:32] That's five toes, but isn't your foot, my precious? That has five toes, but isn't your foot. Five feet? My ring. Five feet? Is that your answer? Yep. My foot.

[01:15:02] Oh, my goodness. Hey, Gollum is really dark. We need to get Gollum saved. Maybe we'll let Gollum do church announcements. Gollum go to church? Yay, listen. Come on, bro. Gollum go to church. We get Gollum in church. You know, if we get the pimp segment, we get a pimp come to the pimp.

[01:15:29] Before you just say no, it was rumored that Nancy Reagan was known prior to Mary and Ronnie for giving the best head in the Hollywood film circle. I'm going to tell you something. I used to have her on my roster for a little while. Oh. I just never did say nothing. Oh. You used to have her. But not at the secret now. For a pimp and a pimp. You got what I'm saying. I see what you're saying, baby. The sex doctor. All right.

[01:15:56] These are strange things to shout out during sex. Okay. I pledge allegiance to the flag. Yeah. Make a mega great again. Here we go. Stay in love. Here we go. Oh. Not one time do we. Not one time. And I was stretching to look.

[01:16:26] Not one time. Not one time. Remember what I told you. The lady said. She said, ladies. She said, stop complaining about these men ain't good and bad. She said, let them know. That way they come to them and they get better. Challenge them. She said, next time he ain't getting down right. She said, pull his head down. Pull your ear to your mouth. And start booing. Boo. Boo.

[01:16:57] Imagine if somebody did you like that, bro. A chick poo. You ain't up to my. You. You do. You ain't. You ain't. She like. Ah. Ah. And if she pushed, she said, come here. Come here. Come here. Boo. What would you do? You got to get up. I would. Yeah, I would shrink. Well, that was shrink for one. All right. Would you rather have Deion Sanders as your agent or Jamarcus Russell as your personal trainer? Man. I'm going to have to go with Deion Sanders.

[01:17:27] Dang. Because at least he going to give me some money. Because Jamarcus sure ain't going to get me in shape. No. We going to eat biscuits and serve. And I don't like that kind of serve. He put on his pancake. The hell? You're leaning. Right. All right. Let's get serious. All right.

[01:17:55] It takes immense courage to acknowledge you're experiencing domestic violence. Right. Please know that you're not alone and there are resources available to help. Your safety is paramount. Here are four steps you can take. Number one, prioritize your safety. Okay. If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency number. Don't hesitate.

[01:18:22] Well, you can have a safe word or signal with trusted friends, family, or neighbors so they know if they hear the call for help, if they hear it. One lady called 911, but she was acting like she was ordering pizza. Right, right, right, right, right. As soon as she said, yes, I'd like to order a pizza, the 911 operator is like, okay. Right. That's a code. What's your address? Right. Right. Crazy. All right. All right.

[01:18:51] Identify a safe place you can go to in an emergency, a friend's house, a shelter, even a public place. Make sure you pack an emergency bag if you can and keep it hidden but accessible. Include essentials like important documents, ID, birth certificates, financial information, medications, change of clothes, some cash, phone chargers. Okay. Number two, reach out for support.

[01:19:20] Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Call 800-799-SAFE and that's 7233. So that's 800-799-7233. Visit their website at thehotline.org. They offer confidential support and resources 24-7. Yeah. Or you can contact with your local domestic violence organization.

[01:19:46] They can provide counseling, support groups, legal aid, and shelter information. Right. Okay. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or neighbor. Letting someone know that's what's happening, what's going on. They can provide emotional support and a potential safety net. Yeah. It can be. Sometimes you might want to consider seeking professional help from a therapist, counselor, experiencing trauma and abuse. Wow.

[01:20:12] The third thing is document, if you can, everything because it's safe to do so. Keep a record of incidents including dates, times, specific details of the abuse and any injuries. Take photos of injuries. Yep. Yep. Save any threatening messages, you know, emails, voicemails. This documentation can be crucial if you decide to pursue legal action. And number four, develop a safety plan.

[01:20:42] A safety plan is a personalized strategy to help you stay safe while in a relationship. Planning to leave after you have left. Domestic violence organizations can help you create one. It might include things like how to leave quickly, who to contact in an emergency, where to go, what to do if the abuser tries to contact you. And remember, you deserve to be safe and live free from violence. Taking these steps is a sign of strength.

[01:21:12] And there are people who want to help you. And we're here to help too. Yes. Tech Summit. Don't forget to like or follow us on your favorite podcast platforms. And of course, our website, On and Off The Field with a D-A dot com. Hey, man. On and Off The Field. The sports podcast. And with a purpose. And with a field coach. What's the show? This is your boy Coach Boston, a.k.a. Steel Nation, since 1976. Man, this is the infamous Yoda man since 1968.

[01:21:41] This was a good episode. Yeah. Listen, you ain't gonna find nowhere else where. I don't think anybody else, nobody else podcast like this. But with a purpose. They can take an issue like that. Mm-hmm. Talk about it and not, you know, not degrade it. Right. Do it respectfully, but still keep it light. Yeah, man. We out the chain, man. Shout out to us. Episode 45. 45. We out. Peace.