Generational Curses

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[00:00:32] Episode 83, Generational Curses. Yeah. Sheesh. So, not the prostate doctor. We're going to do a segment, y'all, because we both have had experiences with having like prostate exams and like... I had a colonoscopy. I had two. You actually had one. I had one a couple years ago. I want to share. We're going to share the experiences. And our prostate exams. Yeah, right. So, you got to hear that story. I got to hear the prostate story.

[00:01:01] But, yeah, Generational Curses. So, we were talking during the week like we always do. I think I talked... Me and the coach talk every day. About content. The other day, I didn't talk to you. And it breathes content. The other day, I didn't talk to you. I felt funny. You did? Yeah. That's last... Was it Thursday? Thursday. Thursday. I didn't talk to you. I felt funny. Oh. Then when I called you, I was like, coach, you got called up, hey, what you do for the fourth? Remember? Oh, right. Right. Right. I remember that. We had a big space.

[00:01:31] Yeah, I remember that. Y'all don't understand. We talk every day. This is normal. We have two heterosexual men. Right. Right. But we just... Chop it up. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Definitely. We're friends. We're best friends. I think he's my... He's my best friend. No doubt. No doubt. So, we were talking. And something I'm already talking about, which is what needs to be addressed.

[00:01:54] And this is the elephant in the room. This is the secret that's kept. This is the reason why people struggle in relationships. Generational curses. It's the seas that's their planet. It's the seas that's its own. Generational curses. And just across the spectrum. Right. Not just one lane, but just across the spectrum. Whether that be molestation, a curse with money, finances, because it exists. Yeah. Absolutely.

[00:02:20] So, like I said, somebody raped at a young age. Trauma. Any kind of trauma. But it goes against... It goes all across other barriers, too. Whites, blacks, rich, poor, city, rural. It is not limited culturally. In the church, out of the church, folks. You know, you're going to really find most of it in the church, to be honest. A lot of it. A lot of it. Especially when you talk about it happening and then keeping it a secret. Right.

[00:02:47] So, during the course of this show, I'm just going to tell you. I was very transparent with Coach off the phone, off the field. I'm going to be very transparent on the field and on the mic. I have experienced and have lived and probably have residue of generational curses from my family. Right. Things that has happened.

[00:03:17] Absolutely. That was traumatic. And these things happened or was taking place before I got here to other people. You see what I'm saying? Sure. Sure. Just... I was... I can say this. By the time I was 12, I had been molested probably about two times that I remember. Okay. At least three times I remember. Okay. And the reason

[00:03:44] I say I remember is because sometimes you... You know, and it was by three different females. Right. I was molested. By the time I was 12 years old, no later than... No older than 14, I was molested by three different women. Now... In your family? In the family and out. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Two in the family, one out. Mm-hmm. The reason I bring that up is because the molestation is not the generational curse. It

[00:04:14] is the act of the person that did it. Something happened to them. Exactly. What happened to them to want to do that to you? Absolutely. Right. To bring that on me. Mm-hmm. So... Where was that seed really planted at first? Right. Right. So I can tell you right now, and that's just the opening. I'm just going to tell you right now that I'm going to be honest about a lot of stuff.

[00:04:37] Well, and it doesn't have to be as deep or hurtful as that. It could be on a subtle level. Of course. You know, just simple words of negative speaking. Word curses. Thank you. Thank you. We're going to touch on all that. Sure. I told you this. I think I told you this. I told you this is not going to be on one time. This is not... Right. Like, really, y'all. And we're quiet, and I hadn't started the theme music yet because

[00:05:04] this is our series. We're going to still laugh, you know, at some point. Sure. And may cry. But I want them to recognize this series and stuff. Absolutely. Because we... Oh, that's just them. We're pouring it off as bad habits. Right. No, no. It's more than that. Right. Theme music. Theme music. Really? No, those facts go a little... So, I just want to be transparent. And I think whoever listens is going to be transparent. Right. Yeah.

[00:05:35] Welcome to On and Off the Field, the podcast with a purpose. We got your On the Field coach. Hey, what's the show? This is your boy, Coach Boston, a.k.a. Steel Nation, since 1976. Ah, you got the infamous Yoda man since 1968. Shout out to Calvin. Roy Hesley. Shout out. Miss him. Miss him a lot. Yeah. So, let's pray. Let's pray. Yeah. You're going to have to pray. Like this.

[00:06:01] Heavenly Father, we lift up our family line to you today. We ask for your healing power to break any repeating cycles of pain, dysfunction, or brokenness that have traveled through the generations. Where there has been trauma, let there be peace. Where there has been struggle, let there be strength. We pray that the cycle stops here and that the legacy paths forward from this day on is of love, resilience, and purpose.

[00:06:30] Cover our past with your grace and guide our future with your light. Amen. In Jesus' name, amen. Wow. Wow. Wow. Yeah. Told you I made it. And then we're going to go to the class class. You got to laugh on this one. You got to laugh. You got to laugh. All right. My family has a generational curse that goes back centuries. Okay. We are all incredibly gifted at making money disappear into thin air. Dude. Hey, that's a generational curse.

[00:07:00] Poverty is a generational curse. Facts. Yeah. And you have to break it. You have to break that. You have to verbally break that. Not just verbally. After you say it, you got to do it. Put it in action. Yeah, because faith without works is dead. So, yeah. Get to put it in action. Yeah. All right. The problem is, isn't that obesity runs in your family. It's that no one runs in your family. Oh, no. Brothers.

[00:07:31] But again. Oh, my goodness. Again, that's a generational curse being of that large size, plus size. It is. It's not like you see one. Usually, if you see a family, if you see one, the family, you see multiple. Dude, I got a cousin who gave birth to a girl. She gave birth to a girl.

[00:07:58] She was feeding her baby red hot links at four months old. Wow. By the time she was six months, she was handling a link. Wow. A glizzy. A hot sausage. The red ones. You remember the red ones? You used to turn the wall to red. I know. I know. She was eating those at four months. Wow. Her baby. Wow.

[00:08:27] I seen a baby, no lie, the mom put beer in the, not the tall baby bottle, but you know you have the mini baby bottles. She put beer in there, and the baby drank the whole beer. Okay. To make the baby quiet. But now, fast forward. I ain't trying to outdo you, but before you go. Fast forward, this person's alcoholic. That same cousin that fed up baby sausage, she played football for blunt. She was a lineman.

[00:09:14] She played guard for blunt. I'm not... What are you talking about? Let me tell the story. What are you talking about? Hold on, let me tell the story.

[00:09:43] I gotta tell it. What are you talking about? Don't lie. I'm not lying. She played left guard for blunt. She did. She was a down limer. Let me tell you how I found out.

[00:10:13] So my daddy... I'm sorry. My daddy... So you know my daddy went to blunt. I know. Right? Right. So what? He also worked for the power company, right? Right. So during his time, he was still working while she was in high school. Uh-huh. So, you know, he's reading meters. So he had to read the meter at blunt. Okay.

[00:10:41] So we go on campus. You see him out there practicing. Oh, hey, man. They're good. The football team. Right. He ain't ready. You know, football season coming. Right. It's August. Okay. They're practicing. Right. Right. You see a lineman out there look familiar. And it's my cousin, right? She... She...

[00:11:18] She... Hold on. Did she play for the varsity? Yes. She was out there practicing with full pads. I'm sorry. I would not lie. Girls can play football today. I understand. I'm just saying. You're just saying. But my point is, she was of a size to where she could play football.

[00:11:48] Left guard. Left guard. Wow. Oh, wow. Pulling guard. She was running that... What was your daddy calling it? Oh, that wish ball. The wish ball. The beer. When my daddy saw her, bro, as soon as he got out of work, he called me. He said, Rick.

[00:12:13] And when he sees something that would traumatize him, he'd say, my Lord. That's what he'd say. He always say, my Lord. When he say, my Lord, it's trouble. He said, Rick. He said, so he called me on the phone. He said, Rick. I said, Rick, my Lord. I said, what happened? He said, Rick, I was at work today, Rick. And I went and read to me that blunt. Lord have mercy. Rick.

[00:12:41] He said, I saw your cousin. I said, what she been doing? He said, Rick, she left guard for blunt love. I said, what? She played left guard, bro. What? She was out there on the practice field. Was she the first woman to play, obviously? Bruh.

[00:13:11] She had to be. They need to log that. What year was this? When was this? I'm going to find out. Yeah. I'm going to find out what year. You want to see if she was on the roster. Had to be in the 80s, huh? In the 80s? Or later than that? It was like 90s. Yeah. Definitely. I'm sorry. That's just a class clown sitting. I don't even know where we are right now. Oh, my God.

[00:13:40] That went left real fast. Here we are. We had Wise America Curse. Okay. It was built on an ancient Indian burial ground. Come on, bruh. Well, you know, the pun is. Is that fiction? Not real. Is that folklore? It became an ancient Indian burial ground because all of them were slaughtered. Wow. I mean, that's. Oh, man, bruh.

[00:14:10] Yeah. What are we doing? Who? Yeah. Like, literally. We can't. If there's an inkling of that. Well, it's true. It is. Right. We can't act like that's not true. Well, it. It gets passed over, obviously, because of the reservations and everything else. It just. Wow. It's just one of many that just gets looked over. Come on. You're right. All right.

[00:14:39] The funniest part about breaking a generational curse is realizing that your ancestors aren't up in heaven cheering you on for your emotional maturity. They're actually offended. Dang. Because they're the ones. Right. So, there's a story in Ezekiel, in the Bible, in Ezekiel. And I think I told this to you. So, the children are complaining, right?

[00:15:09] The children, they murmuring and complaining. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, God comes to Ezekiel. And he said, hey, Ezekiel, he said, I'm listening to y'all, to these people complain. He said, and I hear them quote this proverb. He said, what's this proverb they're quoting? Then he says, and I quote, our mothers and fathers have eaten sour grapes and have set the children's teeth on edge. That was the proverb, right?

[00:15:39] He said, what is this proverb I hear y'all quoting? Because God sat there and listened to him talk. Right. He sat right there and listened, which he does. Right. Right. He said, what's this? I hear them quoting this proverb. Now, this God asking a question. Like, what's this proverb? He know what it is. But what do y'all, he say, our parents have eaten sour grapes and set the children's teeth on edge. Translation, our parents led a bitter, troublesome life.

[00:16:07] And that's the reason we're bitter and troubled. Correct. So he said, you're not going to no longer quote that proverb. That was a generational curse they were trying to say. We're under a generational curse. Our parents did it. Right. So that's why we're doing it. So I said that to say this. Most people leave it there. Okay. Well, my parents did it. So that's why I'm doing it. And I'm going to keep doing it instead of breaking it. Instead of breaking it. Right. So that's in the Bible. So he said, you're not going to use that excuse anymore.

[00:16:38] Now, you're not going to say, oh, I'm on a generation. No. We're going to break it now. Right. Right. Yeah. You got to take action. Yeah. No, you're right. Health is wealth. It's called nurse thickens. You got to call her thickens, bro. I'm glad she didn't hear earlier. Let me get out of here. But I know that her sisters, all of her sisters are overweight. So that's a generational curse. Generational curse. I mean, I'm going to ask you. You think she'll get it? See you later.

[00:17:08] Hello. Hey, nurse thickens. How you doing? Okay, Frank. What comes back to that? Well, let me ask you. How was your pause? Oh, I had a good time, baby. You know, I told you what I was going to do. You ate those hot dogs. I put a little cheese on and chili. Okay. So did you work out after that? You know, I did, baby. Me and Tyrone, we worked out all night. Oh, Lord. I worked all night. Oh, baby. Woo! That's scary, man. We married. You're right. We married.

[00:17:38] You are right now. I did the Lord, baby. Whew. I heard y'all talk about generational curses. Yes, ma'am. Do you have any experience with anything? Well, I think just being big-boated in our family is – Sorry then, Coach Rick.

[00:18:08] Wait a minute. But, Coach Rick, you got me bugging out. Okay. All my sisters are big-boated.

[00:18:35] Nora, Naomi, Natalie, Noel, Natalia, Thickums, Dala, Nadia, and even me, Nevea. You know Nevea is my real name. I never knew your real name. You know what it means, don't you? What? It's heaven spelled backwards. Ooh. Nevea Thickums.

[00:19:05] Nurse Nevea. Okay, Nurse Thickums. You tell Coach Boss about that? No, I got to ask you a question. Oh, yeah. Yeah. So, because you know this, are you taking any steps to correct it, break the curse? Yeah, I eat healthy. I eat healthy now. Okay. What about your sisters, the other Ns? No, I can't speak for them. All y'all names start with N. Why? I have no idea.

[00:19:35] Our mama must have had something – know somebody with an N word. Your daddy did it? Maybe. Yeah. Well, Nurse Thickums, we sure appreciate our Ted Coach Boss, and you say hello. Yeah. Please, baby. And continue to eat better, okay? Absolutely, baby. Thank you, Nurse Thickums. Bye, baby. Bye, bye. Nurse Thickums is wild, huh? Listen, bro. I just beat my coffee up, bro.

[00:20:10] If I'd have swallowed that coffee, I would have choked. I know it. My throat was closed. Oh, my goodness. So, she did talk about – like you said, she brought up about all her sisters and her being overweight. But you know what's interesting? I never knew her name was Nevaeh. Nevaeh. Yeah, you know, that's heaven spelled backwards. Heaven spelled backwards. And boy, did she let folk know. Nevaeh Thickums. Nevaeh Thickums. From now on, I'm calling her about her whole name. Oh, no. I have to.

[00:20:40] Okay. Knowing that that's heaven spelled backwards, that's fire. Right. And then another thing, all her sisters' names start with an end. We couldn't figure out why. What's that about? She said she think there was something wrong with her mama. We have to check into that. Yeah, somebody – she knew somebody with an end. We have to check into that. Yeah, that was a good – that was a – We have to check into that. Yes, indeed. All right. Where are we at? Red flags. If your last name is either Petway or Petaway, it's you in trouble. Yeah. Now, we talked about this. Yes.

[00:21:09] I had experience from selling the cap and gowns. And every school up in that Black Belt area was – probably had 20 to 15 to 20 Petways in every class. Easy. I knew them very intimately on a whole other felonious level. You hear me using words like felonious? Felonious assaults. Felonies. Felonies, yeah. Okay. Right.

[00:21:37] A few neighborhood activities. Felonies, if you can read between the lines. For sure. Oh, yeah. The guy in Camden said, it must be something in our family. Bruh. That's what he's told me this. It must be something in their family. Every one of them – In the water. Go to jail. Yeah. Every last one of them. Mm-hmm. I've seen them go, and I've been in there when I was ministering, and they're in there. From every generation. Do y'all know somebody in every generation that go to jail?

[00:22:07] Or somebody – maybe it might be in your family. All right. A generational curse. Yeah. It's not normal for everyone to be in jail. Let me say this. But it is if that's the normal activity. Like that they're doing. Yeah. Which brings me to my point. Good segue. Another – this is like living an at-risk life. That's a generational curse. Every person – what I mean by at-risk, in the streets.

[00:22:34] But at-risk, though, is at-risk to us. At-risk doesn't seem at-risk to them in amongst their surroundings. Right. Even though it is. Even though it is. It is. Because what I mean with at-risk, at-risk of being incarcerated. At-risk of losing your life. At-risk of – you know, they live that life. And it's like – it's a generational curse. What if you're at risk and you're with your uncle?

[00:23:04] You're with your father? Exactly. You're with your great family friend. I see exactly what you're saying. And they're at-they're doing something at risk. Oh, my goodness. And you're there. But that doesn't seem at risk anymore. Oh, my goodness. It seems normal. Right. I mean, if such-and-such is doing it, and I idolize such-and-such, I want to do that, too. Ah. Right? We don't need to be like that, though, Coach. Which leads into the next segment, Travel Through Your Eyes. Yeah. Prison. Yeah.

[00:23:30] I mean, that's the one place that is full of generational curses. Generational curses, dude. From drug dealing, good after drug dealing, to stealing, whatever. You know what I'm saying? Murder. Rape. Rape. Molestation. Yeah. Full of it. It's a breeding ground for the stories that they have. Oh, man.

[00:23:56] Of where they're, you know, a lot of them, how their life came about just from being born into it. So, there's another scripture in the Bible. David says, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. And people, that's Psalm 51 and 5, I think.

[00:24:22] Like, I was brought forth in iniquity, which iniquity means a lifestyle of just whatever. I was born into this curse. Sure. And in sin did my mother conceive me. Right. So, I'm going to just deal with the first part. Brought forth in iniquity. That's the generational curse right there. I was born into this family. Right. That it's in this cycle of whatever it is. Right. And, you know what I'm saying? And I'm adding to this. Right. Right.

[00:24:50] So, we have to choose either to be a part of the cycle or, like we keep saying, break it. Now, there's two words that we use in what we call healing and deliverance. Renounce and break agreement. Okay. Two terms. Let me say that. So, they say it like this. Let's say, for example, you were in a session, right? You were in a session of healing and deliverance. That's where you get these soul ties and all this. Sure. The person that was directing you through it and praying with you and touching the green,

[00:25:19] they're going to get to the point where they say, hey, let's cast these out. Let's break these curses. Right. So, you as the person under it have to verbally say, I renounce and break agreement with the demon or the spirit of whatever it is. Right. Right. You know what I'm saying? You have no part of my life. Right. You have to take action. Right. Right. Like, get out. You're aware of it, identified it, took action to get out of it. Right. And, yeah.

[00:25:45] I've seen, like, physical manifestations of demons leaving people. I've seen it. I could believe it. I've seen, I'm talking about, it's crazy. It is crazy. So, when you start dealing with this, see, these demons are fine. They fine as long as you, yeah. Right. You don't pay no attention. They destroying you. Right. But they fine. They comfortable. But as soon as you call their name, they're like, wait a minute. Mm-hmm. Now you call me by my name now. Right. Now I'm disturbed. Right.

[00:26:16] Right. So, yeah. Right. Yep. Pet peas. Pet peas. Again, secrets. Secrets. Here we go. Secrets. Listen to me, listeners, on and off the field. If y'all care anything about us, listen to this. Secrets do not stay young. They have birthdays. Mm-hmm. They grow. Right. They become bold. Right. They take over your life. Right. They threaten you. They make you be quiet. Mm-hmm. Yeah. They tell you to shut up and you shut up. That should be an insult.

[00:26:46] Mm-hmm. And I said it that way on purpose. Nothing to, come on. Well, again, but though, if, when these things are brought to you, particularly in trauma, let's, you know, you're, you want to keep it secret. Yeah. Yeah. Because, one, you can't believe that such and such just did this to you. And, and two, you feeling a sense of embarrassment. So, so shame has a way of hiding what you stand to gain while showing you what you stand to lose. Exactly. Exactly.

[00:27:15] Not realizing that you stand to gain more than you're going to lose if you tell the truth or if you let it out. But who sees that? Nobody. At that time. Nobody. You're right. Wow. Look at your neighbor. Look at your neighbor. For generations, the primary survival tools for African Americans were faith, resilience, and community secrecy. Wow. What happens in this house stays in this house. Okay. For example, and I don't mean to cut your wisdom if I may. Sure.

[00:27:42] Remember back in the days if a girl got pregnant in summertime, they sent them up to country or sent them away. Yeah. Hey, what's that? I have a sister in the same situation. Oh, make them wear big t-shirts? Yeah. I have a sister in the same situation. My, my sister, an older sister, her, her mom moved her away. So, my dad never knew she existed. Wow. Yeah. Same thing. Secrecy.

[00:28:09] I don't know if we're going to get to this part, but I'm going to wait. I'm going to wait. I'm going to see if it come up. Okay. Sex doctor. Sex doctor. Sexual abuse within families. Right here. I mean, you spoke on it. Yeah. I was a victim of it. May have been, may have victimized somebody. I don't know. You don't remember. Yeah.

[00:28:38] As a child, you just don't remember. But you do remember certain things that happened to you. Right. And I do. I've been a victim of it. Like I said, probably have victimized somebody else. I've known people, close people who have, you know. As a child, I mean, I don't know. Yeah. But as a child, I definitely, and I knew it was going on. Mm-hmm.

[00:29:00] Like, and I know, I told you the other day, I know for a fact that on one side of my family, it's, you know, facts. Mm-hmm. Right. But they still generation curses.

[00:29:27] I talked to someone this week about the same thing in that they had, their family suffered from, I think it was pedophilia. Mm-hmm. And the other side, other, the husband's family suffered from something else. And it was like, you know, you have two different. So, with me, one side was very sex, masturbation, molestation, all that. Mm-hmm. Secrecy. Sure. Right? Mm-hmm.

[00:29:56] But the other side, very flamboyant with it, but not the sex. It was alcohol, drugs, gambling. Right. Watch this one. And it came up. See, orphaned. Oh, yeah. Oh, wow. Ben, listen, when you struggle with abandonment. Rejection, abandonment. It's abandonment. All of that comes in the orphan. Mm-hmm.

[00:30:23] So, I struggled with the orphan spirit, the abandonment. Gotcha. That's what had me on one side. Right. Like, being a bad, felt like I was the lone wolf, abandoned, didn't fit in. Sure. Big, dude, I used to beg people to be my friend. Really? Facts. Me. Wow. I used to walk behind them. But they were older than me. I got you. And I'm seven, eight years old.

[00:30:52] I can remember this vividly. Yeah. I was in the neighborhood. These older guys. You know, I've always been that little old in the soul anyway. Begging them. Hey, man. Would y'all be my friend? And they knew it. That's the worst thing. When somebody knows your weakness and then they exploit it. Exploit it. Right. That's you bastard. Right. Right. How dare you? Right. Exactly. Exactly. How dare you? Right. Like, and they would exploit it.

[00:31:20] Instead of them befriending me, say, hey, hey, we see, you know, come on in. You're part of the crowd. Right. It's like I was rejected. And I struggled with that. And here recently, you know, something happened to me here. I'm going through now. An abandonment. You know? But I'm stronger now. You're stronger. You're more experienced. Right. It still stings. Yeah. And also you're more aware of who you are, too. Right. Right.

[00:31:49] You know, back then you were trying to figure yourself out. Right. But not in a new perspective. Now that you know, it may be on. It's thank goodness saying they didn't, you know, be my friend. You know? Right. This person like, oh, thank you. Appreciate it. So now I'm starting to see, you know, like I said, I'm stronger. So, you know, it's this way. And listen, and that person that abandoned, they have a generational curse. They're under. They're struggling. Exactly. See that?

[00:32:19] Exactly. Hurting people hurt people. That's right. Because they're under a generational curse. Of some sort. And the worst part is the ones that don't know. They're just kind of swept up in it. Yep. Not knowing what's going on. In this world, man. And don't know how to hit the brakes. Exactly. Exactly. And they know they're out of control. Right. Wow, bro. All right. Two thumbs up. So I just watched this a couple of days ago, actually.

[00:32:48] It's a scene in Forrest Gump where Jenny comes back to her old home and she starts throwing the rocks at the house in anger. Wow. She had an emotional. Because remember her dad was abusing her. Dad, I forgot that. Remember? Remember? And at the end, when she came to live with Forrest and they were walking, she came up on the old house. It was abandoned. But she just kind of, her emotions took over. Right. Because she had been abused.

[00:33:15] And then if you think about in the movie, and I know this was a movie, but indirectly, her lifestyle throughout the movie, when she left Greenbow from Forrest, when she was on her own, was what? Drugs? Yeah. Ho-hoing? Yeah. You know? Yeah. Being out there. That's crazy, bro. That slipped by. Right. To death do us part. Physical and verbal abuse within marriage. I grew up in that.

[00:33:45] My dad, God rest his soul, was not a perfect man. Mm-hmm. Uh, there were times, my parents were married for 16 years of my life. He was married a couple years before that. Okay. They got divorced when I was 15, 16. So, I'm junior, senior, no, sophomore, junior, high school, something like that.

[00:34:12] But within that time span, it was both verbal and physical abuse. Uh, there were many times from elementary school to middle school to high school that me and my sister went to school on two hours of sleep. The reason it was on two hours of sleep is because we were up at 2, 33 o'clock in the morning. My dad was, you know, doing whatever. And it was disturbance. It was physical and verbal abuse. Right. Literally. Right. Bloodshed. Literally.

[00:34:42] Guns pulled. Machetes. Mm-hmm. Whole 15-pound weight pose. Mm-hmm. Yep. Trophies, marble bottom, cutting my, yeah. Mm-hmm. All of that. I witnessed that. And, uh... But you, now, to speak on that, you are a successful tale to tell because you broke that part of the family curse. Right, because I didn't do that. Right. I didn't do that. You didn't have that in your marriage. Mm-mm. I didn't beat on... I never beat on. Mm-hmm. Never. Mm-hmm.

[00:35:12] I didn't... Never do that. And so, uh... Never ran the street. My dad used to... Mm-hmm. Just run a gun, man. Mm-hmm. Love women, though. I do. I love women. Well, like I said, you broke some of the... Yeah, you know. I did. I did what I could. Amen, Pastor. I did what I could, bro. Hey, hey, look. I did what I could, brother Boston. Amen, Pastor. Amen. All right. Serenity now. Serenity now.

[00:35:40] Okay, those who survive any type of abuse have an unconscious drive to reenact past traumas. It says, survivors of early boundary violations may unconsciously seek exploitive partners and becoming controlling and exploitive themselves. Mm-hmm. Then their children witness this and normalize this dynamic, perpetuating the cycle. Perpetuating the cycle. Yeah. Yeah.

[00:36:10] That's a layer. That's a lot in that. Mm-hmm. Like you said, people that survive any type of abuse, they do have unconscious drives. Yeah. And you really don't know it. Right. One example is, the saying is that men marry their mother. I've heard that. Which is, you're unconsciously reenacting. Reenacting, yeah. Yeah. The past trauma. Right. Right. Because you are marrying what you're familiar with. Familiar with.

[00:36:39] Not what's best for you, but what you're familiar with. Like with girls marrying someone like their dad. Their dad. Vice versa. Right. Vice versa. We marry our parents. True. I think that's a better statement. So, survivors of early boundary violations may unconsciously seek exploitative partners. So, now you're marrying a partner that you know that you can exploit in that area. That's right. Instead of getting healed. Right. Exactly. Exactly.

[00:37:09] Oh, man. Coach, what do you think it is? So, what you just, what I just read, they know it. They know it. So, they do it in an exploitative way. Anyway. Yeah, do it anyway. Man, bro. Do you know where all this come from, dude? The originator of this? Satan? Yes. Yeah. Growing discourse. He was under a curse. Growing discourse.

[00:37:36] Well, again, if you're not, if you're not, it's, all of these things are, and I say this, not cavalier, but all of these things can be dealt with if they were, if everything that happened was discussed openly. If I molested my niece and my niece immediately said, hey, this, this, this, and this. Right. And we talked about it. It would stop right there. It would. Right. But, but, but see, the person doesn't say anything.

[00:38:03] And then it can, that stuff continues. Now that seed has been planted there. Now you, you don't break that curse. So now you carry it to your, to your kids. I remember, um, just to go with what you're saying, that they want to find somebody else to exploit or, um, that tempted to reenact it. So. Unconsciously. Right. So R. Kelly was quoted as saying when he was molested, right?

[00:38:33] While he was being molested, while he was being molested, not in the act, but, you know, during the season, he was being molested. The years he was, he said, he went to his brother one time. He was crying. He said, man, told him what was happening. But he said, his brother started crying. He was like, you know, why are you crying? He said, cause it's been happening to me too. He said, they've been doing it. Doing it to me too. Wow. So he's going to his brother for help. But his brother said, hey man, I've been keeping mine a secret too. So what, so what's the answer now for them?

[00:39:03] Like to continue keeping it a secret? No. Right then that should have been exposed. Well, that's my point. It should have been. Like you said. But if you find out that someone who is close to you, like your brother is, has kept the secret, what are you going to do now? Yeah. If I'm not strong enough, I'm going to do the same thing. Do the same thing. Yeah. Right. I'm going to make another secret. Exactly. Bible mystery segment. Proverbs chapter 18, verse 21 says this. Death and life is a real good one. Are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit they are.

[00:39:33] I think I said that to you. That's where I got it from. Okay. When you, when you were talking, I was like. I talk about the Bible so much though. Yeah. I don't think they understand in our conversation. It don't matter what it is. I'll bring up. Sure. The Bible. Right. Right. I think you're used to that now. But the listener may not be. It's just, this is how it does. It's woven through the conversation. It is dude. And I thank God for that. So this is a powerful one.

[00:40:02] This is, this is at the core of the core of generation. Absolutely. So death and life are in the power of the tongue. Stop. Then that's whatever you speak. Word curses. Word curses. Yeah. So, so what are word curses? Word curses are things that are beliefs that God never said about you or that does not even pertain to you. It's not even part of your DNA, but because you say it and start believing it, it becomes

[00:40:32] part of your DNA. Yep. Your makeup. Yep. You accept what you say. So that's a word curse. Right. So what's the opposite of a word curse? Um, godly beliefs. You got ungodly beliefs, then you got godly beliefs. How do you break a word curse? You break a word curse by declaring what God has said about you and not what you feel about you. Right. Exactly. That's how you break a word curse. So find out what God says about you. And then when you say what God said about you.

[00:40:57] Now, the thing about it is, I don't think people understand the legitimacy of the word of God. It's what God said. Right. So if you repeat what God said, guess what? It's got to happen because God don't just say stuff and it don't happen. You need to repeat that more than what you feel. More than what you just heard from somebody else. No, I'm preaching to myself. Yeah. Because I'm, I'm so, I'm more used to my voice than God's. Right. So I'm going to listen more to what I say than what God said, which is the, which I need to do the opposite.

[00:41:28] Because if your heart condemns you, God is greater than your heart. Right. So I will, if our heart condemns us because we're under this curse. Yeah. I messed up. Right. But you know what? God, I'm sorry. So God knows your heart. He's greater than your heart. And so, yeah, you break that by saying what God, cause I don't want us to just sit here and talk about the curses and then like give a remedy. Well, this is a good one. Um, in the next one for the, uh, let me finish this. Well, this is, they, they love it. Yeah.

[00:41:58] Shall I eat the fruit they are? That. So if you speak on, you're going to eat what? Yeah. You're going to eat your words. Exactly. That's facts, bro. That's why when we, when came to me, I was driving and God dropped that one straight off the throne. Oh man. I said it. Yeah. And I was typing it down. Fire, bro. So in the next one, uh, owning off the field book club. This book called the four agreements and, um, Miguel Don Ruiz.

[00:42:27] He says, um, your word is a gift from God used to manifest reality, making it a literal form of magic. Kind of like what we had just talked about. Right. He says white magic is, this is practice when you use your words to uplift, speak the truth and spread love. Okay. Uh, black magic obviously is occurs when you use words to destroy, deceive, manipulate, or judge, but this was what he had really talked about.

[00:42:54] Like the words that you, uh, are speaking their spells. So give you an example. A mom has, uh, she has a long day. Right. And the kid comes home from school. He's very hyperactive, wants a lot of attention for some reason. Yeah. Yeah. And the mom in, in Jess says, you know, Hey, you know, will you be quiet? Just you, so you talk too much, you getting on my, you know, and says something in Jess

[00:43:24] unaware that that, that she just cast a spell on her son. Now, if the son doesn't, isn't aware of this to say, that's not true. That's, she just having a bad day. I'm not like this, what she just described. Right. Yeah. You carry that spell or if somebody walks, some of you come across them. Well, you, you know, you sure do look ugly today. Right. Are you ugly today? Yeah. You either, you're going to believe that. You're going to believe that.

[00:43:54] Oh, you're going to say, nah. Take that. Yeah. No, I'm not. Right. I'm fearful. You sure looking chunky today. Right. Are you going to believe that? Yeah. You can't see. Are you believing that? Ah, man. Magic. He said that magic, the words that you speak are magic spells. So do you, so how much responsibility is it on the person, the hearer to say, Hey, that's trash to take the meat, throw away the bone. How much responsibility?

[00:44:21] Because you can't, it's obvious you can't control what people say. You can't control what people say, but you have to be aware of what is being said. That it's not personal. That's what I mean. Towards you. The responsibility. But you could be in a state of mind where you could, that could be like the hammer and the nail. The nail in the coffin. Right. That last one. You could be looking for some sort of affirmation, feeling, just feeling low. Right. Somebody comes across and says a mean comment to you.

[00:44:49] That's just going to take you further into that belief that what they said, not knowing that that person may have had some sort of other issue that they were dealing with. That's not personal to you. Wow. I told you we, we spinning the block. African proverb. This is a good one too. Put on your red dress. A vine crawls where its mother crawled. Children naturally mimic the steps, habits, and pathways of their parents.

[00:45:17] It is a reminder of how easily dysfunctional family cycles duplicate themselves if left unexamined. That's facts. Yeah. So there's another proverb in the Bible that says that the leech has two daughters. Okay. Want to know what their name is? What? Give and give. Give. That's what the Bible says. Really? Oh, wow. So how does that fall into generational curses? Because that's the generational curse when you always got your hand out. Right.

[00:45:45] I'm not knocking it about it that's on Section 8 or welfare, but however. It's not like it's just one member of the family. Usually you see families together. That's what I'm talking about. Doing that. See, now it's something I'm talking about. That's what I'm speaking to. Right. That right there. Right. Where it is, like you said, woven in the fabric of the lineage. Every uncle.

[00:46:15] Everyone. Everybody has the same. Yeah. That's a curse. Absolutely it is. The leech has two daughters. Give and give. Now, if both of her daughters may give, what you think the leech was asking for? She, come on. Right. Thanks. You have some women and some men that have it in their mind that they don't have to work and somebody else is going to take care of them. Yeah. No. Mm-mm, bro. Yeah.

[00:46:46] Say any proverb. Okay. Dragons give birth to dragons. Phoenixes give birth to phoenixes. And the children of rats know how to dig holes. Damn. Oh, my goodness. That's horrible. Mm. Yeah. I'm going to go to Blue Bag Music segment. Okay. It's Mother I Sober by Kendrick Lamar. Have you heard this one? Where he traces the cycle of trauma. Yep.

[00:47:16] Silence and infidelity through his family. The song ends with his partner and child thanking him for finally breaking the curse so that children won't have to carry it. Facts. I listened to the song several times. And you know what? You know how shallow people are? Mm-hmm. They'll listen to the song but miss the message. Correct. Because they bob in the head. Correct. But the man was breaking a generational curse. He was breaking his own curse. Literally. He was noticing what was going around him and within his family.

[00:47:44] That is a real good example, Coach. Yeah. Wild as fire that you got there. Yeah. All right. The odds. Uh-huh. All right. This was Fences. You know, I think Denzel played. Yes. In the movie. Yes. This was actually a book, though. So, it was called by August Wilson. The former Negro League player who Denzel played was derailed by his own sports career. But he had a very strong dad in his life.

[00:48:13] And so, he inflicted the same ways upon his own son. Thus, continuing the cycle. Yeah. Harsh, abusive from his own dad. He continued and brought that with his son. In the same manner. So, let me say this.

[00:48:38] I started telling my sister probably about maybe five years ago, six years ago. I had always been mindful of my parents' ways as opposed to mine. Sure. And if I saw something in them that I didn't like, okay, now I'm starting to ask, do you do that, Rick? Right. And if so, you need to rid yourself of that. Correct. So, maybe about five years ago, I started talking to my sister about it and bringing it to her

[00:49:07] attention, right? Hey, you know, because that's kind of sensitive, you know? Everybody speaks well of their parents. No, it ain't no wrong with my parents. Lies. Right. Right. Lies. Right. Come on. Right. It come from somewhere. So, we need to face the fact that we didn't have perfect parents. Right. And some of my parents' ways, if I didn't like them, then I don't like them on me. Mm-hmm. So, therefore, I rid myself of that.

[00:49:33] Or I make sure to see, do a self-examination to see if I'm doing that. But, the book was talking about, in the Four Agreements, again, you have to meditate and go back in time and to see what it was that your parents may have said inadvertently or what they may have done inadvertently. Not because they were bad parents, but because they were living and doing, you know, whatever they did.

[00:50:01] My mom was angry with my, well, the reason my mom said some of the stuff she said to me is because, one, I looked just like my dad. And she was angry at your dad. And she was angry at my dad. Frustrated with that life. Right. Yeah. So, when she saw me, she's like, she was taking it out on me as, like, really, like, on my dad. One of the things I remember she said. But those words were spells. Absolutely. On you. Spells. I want to go back to that, too. Yeah. She said to me, you're going to be just like your low-down daddy.

[00:50:28] You're going to be just like your, you know. That's a spell. Yeah. And I remember I used to ride down the street with my head out the back window with the breeze in my face as a child. And I looked up to my dad and I used to say, man, I want to be just like him. I used to say that. So, now, that's two different things, though. I was talking about the good part. The part of me that looked at him, saw him as a hero. Sure. But my mom, you're going to be just like him. She was talking about the disappointments. Yeah.

[00:50:59] Well, you took what was negative from her that she placed upon you and now you feed that now. That's part of you. Yeah. That's part of you. Unconsciously. Unconsciously. Yeah. I used to have, my mom used to say, would you be just like your Uncle Face? Well, Uncle Face was. I love my face. You told him about Uncle Face. Uncle Face was that guy. Uh-huh. You know, and so, if you were a con or getting over on something or. Yeah.

[00:51:27] But what it does now is it normalizes that. Well, I'm, it's part of the lifestyle. Yeah, it's part of the, you know, the last name. I thank God that I took the best parts of my parents that I tried to. Right. And still trying to get rid of some of the bad parts. Still. You know, be honest. Everybody. We have to, we have to identify what they did. Make peace with it.

[00:51:55] Knowing that it wasn't coming from a point of purpose to attack. But, you know, but they were, you know, living their life. And dealing with things that they had dealt with prior to. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Huddle up with her. All right. Huddle up. Marv Marinovich strictly engineered his son Todd from infancy to be the perfect quarterback. You remember that? Yeah, I do. This intense pressure led to severe addiction struggles.

[00:52:24] Now, Todd's son, Barron Marinovich, is a high school football player in the class of 2028. And to break the generational cycle, Todd actively avoids his father's extreme training methods. Choosing instead to project his son's autonomy and freedom of choice. He's breaking the curse. That's facts. Yeah. That's good, man. Breaking the curse. He took it upon himself. Because his, his dad did not allow him to have a life.

[00:52:52] It was all based on being this, this perfect quarterback. And it, obviously, it just derailed his, you know, his, his life after, uh, when he was playing football. You know, it kind of, we're in that same vein. It made me think about something. Um, we make the same bad choices that our parents make too. Like, uh, how many people got married because they were told they needed to get married? Right.

[00:53:22] You know, the Bible say you ain't told to be screwed in that, you shaggy. And you know, you, you know you married the wrong person. And you married the wrong person. Yeah. Because of the, what you think is the norm. And expectation. Of somebody else. Yeah. How many people that got married? Based on the statistics, a lot. Because 50% of the people that got divorced, you know, now. Man, dude.

[00:53:48] So why would you have 50% or more people getting divorced if. They married the wrong person. Bottom line. Mm-hmm. They married the wrong person. Or the, you know, they weren't ready. You know, because. Facts. People were, people sometimes look for marriage as this savior to what you're. Right, but you're not ready for it. No. All you're doing is bringing that to the marriage. I think people are in love with the idea of being in love. Right. And being married. And being married. But I think they're in love with the idea of being in love. Mm-hmm.

[00:54:18] They don't, you don't really love the person. And that's not a knock. You don't really love the person. Mm-hmm. You just, you're in love with the idea. It's the fairytale thing. Comfortable. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then you're in love with the idea of being married. And being this marriage you saw on TV. Right. No. Right. You married, you get. Yeah. Let's go. All right. Mary's Nerd Nugget Fun Facts. All right.

[00:54:44] Long before video games, Nintendo was founded in 1889 as a company that manufactured homemade Japanese playing cards called Hanafuda. Wow. I didn't know that. Yeah. Did you know? Nope. A man sued Pepsi accusing him of having a dead mouse in his Mountain Dew. What? The defense was that it would be impossible because it would have dissolved the mouse before he ever found it. That's facts. Could show you what soda do. What soda do. Ugh. But I bet he lost the case. He lost the case.

[00:55:13] He had no hold. Come on, bro. Things that make you go hmm. That made me go hmm. Ancient Romans used to give their lovers necklaces with their pubic hair as a sign of affection. Bye. Break the generational curse. Get the public hairs off the necklace, bro. No public hairs on necklaces. Now. Helpful hint segment. You still can't believe my cousin played football. Push your pulling on the guard. Pulling guard. That trap.

[00:55:43] Left guard, bro. The trap. She run that trap. Off tackle. Right. Off tackle. I'm not lying. You know what makes the fuck. All right. Helpful hint. Helpful hint segment. You cannot change what you do not acknowledge. Breaking the cycle requires shifting focus from what you do not acknowledge. What they did to what you are going to do. Right.

[00:56:12] Wow. You have to take action. You do. You have to take action. You do. First. The first part is being aware of what happened and knowing and then saying it's not personal. It's not personal towards me. It just happened to me. It just happened. Right. Somebody did it. Right. Right. Now you have to acknowledge, then shift your focus and say, hey, this was on them. It's not on me. This is not who I am. This does not define me. Right. Right. Oh, Monica.

[00:56:41] Oh, Monica. Oh, Monica. Love is the anchor and love is the sail. The quiet, steady light when all the forces fail. It is the peace in the chaos. The calm in the storm. Two souls in darkness keeping each other warm. Oh, Monica. All right. That's all I'm telling people.

[00:57:10] Oh, Monica. Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Oh, my. Come on. All right. Church announcements. All right. Reverend Ledbetter is hosting a Break Your Family Curse fundraiser. Each member is required to commit a minimum of $375. There you go. Right there, bro. These make checks payable to ram in the bush missionary back to church.

[00:57:42] Luke, I am your father. You don't know anything about that. Put on my steel account. Okay. Yoda.

[00:58:06] So, the history, Genesis 4, 19, verses 24, Adah and Zillah were the wives of Lamech, mothers to Cain's great, great, great grandchildren. And it said in the Song of Lamech, they're famous for being part of an audience of a dark, boastful poem where Lamech tells them, I have killed a man for wounding me.

[00:58:31] If Cain is avenged seven times, then Lamech 77 times. Although their children, although their children did great things, they were a part of a generational curse. They were also a part of the generational curse. Facts. From Cain being the first murderer. Cain was under a curse. Correct. So, his son Lamech, and I told you, you went and found it. Right, right. Lamech comes home.

[00:59:02] And he said, now I'm going to tell you something interesting historically. Not that it's in the Bible, but you're going to find it's interesting. So, Lamech, he had just killed a man. He was out hunting. They killed a man, right? He said, if Cain is avenged sevenfold, what that means is, when Cain killed Abel, God said, you're a vagabond. Cursed. Walk to earth. You're a vagabond. Right. Cain said, that's going to be messed up because whoever will find me is going to kill me.

[00:59:31] That let you know it was other people out there. People miss it. Right. God said, no, not so. He said, I'm going to put a mark on you. So, whoever touches you is going to be avenged sevenfold. That's why Lamech got that from. Okay. Because his daddy told him about it. Right? So, now here's what's crazy. Cain being cursed to be a vagabond. Watch this, coach. So, he's cursed to walk the earth, right? So, you know, people, their hair grew faster.

[01:00:00] All of that. Just pure. Sure. History says that while Lamech was out hunting, he saw in the thicket what he thought was an animal. Hmm. When he shot it and when he got up on it, it was Cain. His dad. Oh, wow. Cain, his hair, because he was a vagabond. Ah. He had grown so, his fingernails had grown so. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[01:00:30] He's big. I got you. He looked like. He had nails like evil. Yeah, he looked like an animal. And when he, Lamech, and when he realized who it was, he went back and say, I killed a man. And history, it's in the book of Jasher. It's in the book of Jasher. Okay. All right? Okay. Just like the book of Enoch. You know what you do? Yeah, yeah. It's in the book of Jasher. That's where I get it from, historically.

[01:01:01] Mm-hmm. And to be honest, it makes sense, though. It makes sense. Full circle, full circle. Right. Yeah. So, but back to your point, those two women, which I brought up to you, Ada and Zila, if they had known this man was under a curse, they wouldn't come on. Right. Which makes practical point right here, a practical application. How many people married people not knowing that they were under a curse? Again, I would say 50%. God. 50% ended up in the war.

[01:01:30] And you don't know it. Yeah. And you spend your time trying to help them through something that you have absolutely nothing to do with. That they can't help. That you cannot help them. Because you can't break what you're not a, you can't break it for them. Right. They have to break it for themselves. Yeah. So imagine. And you married, and you find out this soul's tormented because. After years, you find out, man, this ain't got nothing to do. Nothing to do with me.

[01:01:59] But a lot of time, energy, and money was wasted. Oh my goodness, bro. But you know what I thought was interesting? Out of the two was this was the first instance of polygamy in the Bible. Yep. It was. So here's the thing. The law hasn't, haven't been given yet. Right. When the law came, that's when they said, hey, can't sleep with your sister. Remember? Right. Leviticus 18. Don't sleep with your dad. Don't sleep with your mama. It's in there, y'all. Read Leviticus chapter 18.

[01:02:29] To uncover somebody that's nakedness means to sleep with their. Yes. Right. Right. So whole nother curse, bro. Now we, now we talk about the Genesis nine. Whole nother curse. Moses curses, uh, he curses Canaan. A whole nother curse. Yep. Sheesh.

[01:02:59] I just, again, uh, and, and, and, and, and then we pose this question again, just for people to think about it. Would you have married that person knowing that they were under a curse? In hindsight, which is always 20, 20. Right. You can say, you can say probably not. Nine times out of 10, no. Especially if you knew it was how dark it was. A lot.

[01:03:24] Imagine all the, the women who did not know that their husband was going to be abusive. Right. Because he was abused. How, how many, and, and, and, and they only showed his face afterwards. You know? Bruh. Yeah. All right. Quotes of the week. Yep. All right. Get out of here, Dewey. It takes a lot of courage to face the things you were taught to ignore, but that is how the cycle ends.

[01:03:52] So that's, that's very interesting. You were taught to ignore that. Right. That's a damn shame. Right. That they teach us to ignore. Keep it in the family. Keep it in the house. Right. Ignore the fever. Mm-hmm. Because of the infection. Mm-hmm. This is our family. This is our family. This is what we do. This is what we do. Ignore the sickness. Right. This is what we do. It's just, it's just how it goes. Right. Come on, bruh. Yeah.

[01:04:20] But again, if this is your favorite person in the world, family member you growed up with, with the next person and the next extension, and you feel the most comfortable you've ever been, and they're saying, do this, what happens? You do that. My pastor said something to me one time. I think this is fit for this moment. Mm-hmm. I think this is something we got to do. He told me this. He loved me.

[01:04:49] He said, Bubba, he said, I love you. He said, but he said, don't ever make me choose between you and God. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. He said, please don't put me in a position to where I got to choose between you and God. Right. I got you. He said, because I'm going to choose God every time. Mm-hmm. My point.

[01:05:13] We, you as an individual, have to get to a point where you say, I don't know. I don't care who you are. Mm-hmm. Family or not. Family or not. Mm-hmm. Don't ever put me in a position to choose between your way and God's way. Right. Because if you do that, I'm going to pick God's way every time. Yeah. That's the way it should be. That's the way it should be. It needs to be like that. Mm-hmm. That needs to be normalized.

[01:05:43] That needs to be a developed. Your mindset needs to be developed to that. Don't ever make me choose between your way or God's way. Because I'm going to choose God's way. It don't matter if you don't agree with it. Right. Right. I don't agree with everything God said. But I'm choosing his way. Right. That lifts the curse. Facts. I'd rather choose his way and be, you know what I'm saying, not have a curse on me than just make you comfortable and live under a curse. Oh, no.

[01:06:13] Never. Jeez. All right. I don't think y'all understand what I'm laughing. All right. If you can dodge a wrench, then you can dodge a ball. So, before I go into it. Watch it. Watch it on the floor. You loser. I told y'all. I knew it.

[01:06:41] This is the same thing he did with the campaign. He hot on the tail of the dodgeball. Excellent dude. Excellent movie. You're going to make me watch that today. Oh, I love it. Oh, my God. All right. Ancestors are not just behind us. They are inside us. Healing yourself is a way of healing them, too. Okay. Their ways are. Their ways and habits are. Sure. We have the proclivity. Sure.

[01:07:12] And the tendency to repeat. Repeat. Yeah. You're right. Absolutely. Absolutely. You saw all the things. Awareness is the first step in dismantling the generation. I like that word. Once you see the blueprint, you have the power to change the design. I like that word. Dismantling. Dismantling. Breaking that joke down, boy. You see it. You're aware of it. Break it down.

[01:07:39] The reason I'm so adamant is because I'm so sick and tired of not being who God wants me to be. And I feel cheated. You see what I'm saying? So I'm frustrated with generational curses. Right. Ungodly beliefs. All this crap. So because I hate that stuff, I want to be the opposite of that stuff.

[01:08:10] The, what was the show? It was a show and he was doing everything wrong. Seinfeld, Costanza, he was doing everything wrong. And then all of a sudden he started to do the opposite. Right. Jerry said, if everything that you've ever done has been wrong, then the opposite must be right. Do the opposite. And then he got a job. He met the girl. You know, everything was going away from him just from doing the opposite.

[01:08:36] This old lady, when I was younger, troubled. I remember this old lady told me, she said, baby, one thing about wrong is that you ain't nothing but 180 degrees from right. Facts. I said, yeah. Facts. Oh, you got to do it. Turn it around. Do the opposite. Not even the whole turn. Right.

[01:09:02] She said, you ain't but 180 degrees from right. I see. Yeah. Stop eating my sesame cake. Stop eating my sesame cake. It is not a betrayal of your family to outgrow their survival tactics. It is an evolution. It is an evolution. Facts. Nothing stays the same. Facts. What is wrong with people? Growth. And growth requires sacrifice. Sacrifice requires discomfort.

[01:09:34] It would help if the entire family were aware and they could help each other, pull each other. But it makes it difficult when you're the one that's aware and now you're faced with the situation. Now you have to leave or dismantle yourself from this part of the family. Yeah. If you want to survive anyway. Right. You tell the man, blue horse you love, Anacostia. Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go.

[01:10:02] They merely determine where you start. What? That's fire. What if you lose? What if you lose? What if you lose? You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. C.S. Lewis. Yeah. Facts. Look, that's for me. You talked about this perception versus perspective. Liability versus a possibility. Yep. I sure did. Yeah.

[01:10:32] So, liability versus possibility. Mm-hmm. This came to me a couple years ago. And I did a drop on it, actually. Define both of them. I define liability and possibility. Even like with liability, you know, with insurance. Mm-hmm. If you don't get full coverage, at least get... Liability. That's right. Yeah. Don't get possibility. Possibility.

[01:11:05] Because, you know, a lot of people riding around with possibility. Possibility insurance. Right. That means they ain't got nothing. They ain't gonna be the ones that we hit you, too. It's a possibility they're gonna mess up. So, you have two types of people in your life. Right. Either they're gonna be a possibility, or they could possibly be a beneficiary. Always possibilities with them. Right. Right. Hopeful. Right. Eyebrows go up. Exactly.

[01:11:41] And, you know, when we say liability. Right. Possibility. And liability. You know, possibly they can... That give you the arts, them eyebrows. Right. You know, possibly. Yeah. Liability. You're like, man, this is gonna go again. It ain't liable to mess up the bed. He liable to be late. Right. He liable not to show up. Right. He liable to cuss you out. Right. He liable to this. They liable to... Yeah. Anything you say, they liable. Nothing beneficial. It's bad. Right.

[01:12:11] No possibility. No possibility. Come on, bro. Talk about you don't need to have that person in the boat with you. Exactly. Because they liable to poke a hole. They liable to stand up and rock it over. Dude, I'm telling you. Yeah. When you've been in a boat with somebody and you rowing and they poking holes. Mm-hmm. No. Right. What's wrong with you? Yeah, fact. And I got to put the oars down to plug the holes. Soon as I get the holes plugged and grab the oars and start back rowing, you grab another thing and start poking holes. You need to get out the boat. You need to get out the boat.

[01:12:42] Until you know... When you're rowing, rowing is synchronicity. Come on! If you go on, you doing law like this and I'm trying to... Come on, man. We fight against you, Tuck. Exactly. Go on and get your own boat. Poke holes in it. Exactly. And see how far you get. Right, right. You liable not to get no... Possibilities versus liable. Tell me it. It's true. It's true. All right. All right. Final Drive, Sports Jeopardy.

[01:13:11] 3 a.m. Thoughts. Random 3 a.m. The first person to ever milk a cow was probably doing something weird. That's facts. I just couldn't be that first person. I wouldn't have been able to be the first person. I'd have to see somebody else pull the tit first. Well, I mean... I mean, how would you even get to the point where you would think that that's going to do that? Yeah. Yeah. Who told them to milk the first person? Had to be... That's what I'm saying. They didn't tell them. They probably did it and saw where that was coming out. But why were they doing it on the first place?

[01:13:41] Well, God told them because there's milk in there. You think God told them? I think so. All right. Let's hope. Let's hope. All right. Spelling Bee. All right. Equanimity. Equanimity is the ability to remain calm, composed, and even tempered, especially during a difficult or stressful situation. She handled the crisis with remarkable equanimity. Oh, you want me to spell it? Yeah. Spelling Bee. I can't cheat. I got you. You got it. Did I get it on there? Yeah. I won't do that.

[01:14:10] But it's E-Q-U-A-N-I-M-I-T-Y. Equanimity. You got it right. Yeah. He put it on my paper. I messed up one up. I ain't going to take no credit, Coach. I messed up one up. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I'm sitting there looking like... You must not realize he gave it a word. I didn't know. I didn't know. I think out of... What episode is this? Eighty... Eighty-three. Out of 83 episodes, you've only done that twice. Yeah. It happens. I can count on one hand. It happens. You only did it...

[01:14:39] But out of 83 episodes, that's a good percentage. Good shooting percentage. That's a good shooting from the field. That's a good shooting percentage from the field. That is. What's that about? Nine to seven percent? That's a free throw. That's a good... I'm going to shoot the tech. Right. Coach going to shoot me to shoot the tech. Right. Right. Every time. Look how we just did that. Third is your segment. Where should LeBron go in free agency?

[01:15:04] Rumors with Golden State, Philly, Cleveland. Those are the top three, if I'm not mistaken. Miami. I don't think he should go to Golden State. Him and Steph? Yeah. They'd have fun, but I don't know. Well, again, what would it be about at this point? Exactly. So, wherever he's going. He's got to have that fun. He's got to be fun. He's got to be. So, maybe Golden State, maybe.

[01:15:34] Maybe it's just his last, you know, hurrah. I can't see him going to Philly. They got a good team. He would fit in. They would be... They would push, I would think, they'd be the favorites in the East over the Knicks if LeBron... With that squad they have? Yeah. You think he won another ring? Or do you think he's just saying, hey, I'm going to chalk this last year up or whatever I got left to enjoy the game? I think he wants to go out with a win. I can't say that he... What do you got, three?

[01:16:04] He's got four. Four. He's got four. For him to go out with another win, he'd be closer to Jordan, which I know he won. Tied with Kobe. Tied with Kobe. Huh. Tied with Duncan, who has five rings. He has five. And nobody says nothing about him. Robert Ory got... Do you know Robert Ory got five rings? He got six. Six rings. He got six rings. He got six rings. Nobody says that. Yeah. He was what they call those glue guys. Bruh. Yeah. You got to have one of those guys hit big shots, get rebounds.

[01:16:33] He used to hit them shots, bruh. Like, I remember when he was at Houston. Mm-hmm. He was a rookie then. He was dangerous, bruh. He was a rookie then. Robert Ory was dangerous, bruh. Yeah, he was a rookie then. Sheesh. Yeah. Yeah. All right. All right. Thank you to our incredible listeners. Thank you for being a part of the On and Off the Field family. Don't forget to like or follow us on your favorite podcast platforms. And, of course, our website, On and Off the Field with a D-A dot com. Do you think we're going to come back with this? At some point, we will.

[01:17:02] So, in speaking to people, we're going to spin the block. That'll be like not every episode. No, no, no, no, no. We're going to touch it. We should touch it. We're going to come back and have some people, you know. I would love to do that. Hear their stories. I want to do that. Yeah. So, y'all listening, we want your stories. You can call in. Like, you know what I'm saying? We're going to get to that where we fucking call in. That'd be fine. That's what I'm saying. When people call in and tell us their story about, you know, either how they're dealing with the generational curse

[01:17:32] or how you've broken it. Yes. Yeah. Man, that's going to be fire, bro. This was a good segment. This was a good one, man. Wow. This was a good one, bro. All right. It's been On and Out the Field, a podcast with a purpose. We got to own a field coach. That's for sure. This is your boy Coach Boston, a.k.a. Stiller Nation, since 1976. You got the infamous Yola Man since 1968. Good stuff, man. There's no way, no way you could come from my loins.

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